For those who were blindsighted dgiirl: For those who were blindsighted with their stbx's coming home and laying a whole bunch of bs horrible crap about you to justify their reasons for leaving, this is what my stbxh has learned and told me "cognitive dissonance - internally demonizing the other person in order to be able to deal with the pain causing action". He's appologized for the way he left and realizes that what he did was totally unfair. He's not the type of person who gets pleasure from hurting people, and he realizes the only way he could leave was to demonize me. Logically, at the time I knew this, but it still broke my heart and caused a lot of pain. I'm happy tho that he realizes what he did and actually appologized for it.
I just thought I'd post it in case it helps anyone else. I read a lot about WS, and I was curious to know if what I read was true. So far, it has been true. It gave me a little bit of perspective into what the WS is feeling and I hope it helps others. This is after 6 months of almost no contact with each other. Realistically, I dont see us getting back together, but I'm happy that he acknowledges his faults and appologized for them.
Re: For those who were blindsighted Mart: It is good that he apologized. I hope it will be easier for you to move on (if that's what will happen).
Re: For those who were blindsighted dgiirl: Thank you. I sent him a letter the other day, because after speaking in person I noticed he still had a lot of hurt and obviously never understood what I was going through. I put my heart on the line, but I'm happy I did. I wont ever have any regrets. I know I've done everything humanely possible to make things better, and that is what will help me to move on.
Re: For those who were blindsighted Mart: Good job! By reading your posts, I see that you are a very strong person.
Re: For those who were blindsighted dgiirl: Thank you. That's so sweet of you to say :)
