The Ring riversandlakes: She never felt the same as I did, yet she played along. Maybe deliberately, maybe subconsciously, I will never know. She accepted the gold ring because (I can only think logic here) she was (or still is) too cowardly to refuse it. It would have planted a red flag on the mountain. It would have shaken the four-year-old us.
At 29, at that time with no one to cheat with, she dared not take the chances of refusing my gold ring.
From a much more leveled head, do you agree? Or disagree? Or doesn't matter?
Re: The Ring mophead123: For me it wasn't a ring but rather a prized possesion that I had in my family for over 3 centuries. It was the possesion most important to me. A simple gold chain that my grandfather had receievd from my grandmother after finally saving up enough money to put a down payment on a house after moving to the US way back when. Got passed down to my father and then me. Can you belive how crazy I was to have given that to her. But I did. During her time of "space and time" as you so often refer, I was tryingto do everything to show her how important she was to me how my love fro her was through and through. So what did she do? Se accepeted it with tears of joy (or what i thought at the time). The reality was they were tears of guilt and shame. I believe after parting ways that night for dinenr in early March she went to stay with the OM. What kind of woman has so little of a conscience? It infuriated me that she wouls take something so special from me. Ihave worn this chain since I was 13 years old and never remove it. To think I was going to gve it to her. I finally received it back after pleading with her in June. She sent it back alright with a bunch of other gifts I had sent her. The fabled passive aggressive trick. Hadn't she done me enough harm...no she still wanted the last word. That was the final contact. She worte, I can't hold on to these gifts as they don't feel right. Why not dump them and spare me the spit in your face action.
I too was infuriated that she would accept it knowing full well that her acceptance meant nothing. But the fact is the previous few months had also all been lies. If one delves deeper into this, it is quit eclear why they accepted the gifts. a(they were too scared to refuse b) "they didn't want to hurt us" (ironic right) c)In the ned they are weak individuals d) it goes along with the psyche of a cheater, a deceiver, a liar...in the end they are spineless jellyfish. Well jelly fish may sting you with their tentacles...but when you understand their secret you just pick them up by their heads and toss them onto the sand...eventually someone will..I am sure.
Re: The Ring hudson: engagement rings right?
My exwife must've looked at a thousand rings at dozens of jewelry stores before finding the one just for her. It was very expensive and she new I couldn't afford it. But she tried it on for fun. I saw the look in her eyes when she put that ring on. different look with the other rings.
That was the ring I gave to her when I proposed, she was shocked to see it there in the little black box,
I think she took the ring because she wanted to be my wife, more than anything...almost as much as her family didn't want her to be my wife. And I think she kept the ring because it represents a time when things were better. A time when love was the predominant factor. And she absolutely adores it that thing.
I think that the ring made the idea of becomeing husband and wife more real for her. But it was never enough to convince her that I was the one for her.
Re: The Ring Mooneyes: The ring I got made me feel like a magical princess it is beautiful and ornate. But I have thought since what happened to the guy who worked so hard to get this ring? Why doesn't he work this hard to keep me? I think many people have strong emotions tied to a ring. Like the eyes lighting up and a daydream beginning.
Re: The Ring Spectrum: My ring was a funny thing.... Neither my ex nor I picked it out. We had paid a jewelry designer to design a ring for us, and my ex purchased the diamond. The designer didn't have the ring done "in time" so he put the diamond into some random setting so that my ex could ask me to marry him on Christmas Eve.
At first neither of us were too fond of it, as it was a very different looking ring. It grew on me, however, and I decided to keep it instead of sending it back to get the other setting.
I sold it to help finance my move to Houston. I'm not sure how I feel about that now, in light of how things turned out. At this point, though, (over a year post-final, with my ex likely engaged again already) I am more bummed that I sold the most expensive piece of jewelry I own than I am about the emotional part.
Spectrum.
