Re: pissed Tarheel: Ah, birthdays...
I had to pick up my daughter from my (at the time) stbx on my birthday this past April, and she actually had the gall to tell me "Happy Birthday." Lucky me, I had been planning my reply overnight on the offhand chance that she'd be stupid enough to say something. So I told her...
"Like you give a s*** whether I have a happy birthday or not. I suppose 'Happy Birthday' means about as much as 'Happy Valentine's Day' meant two months ago. Ya know, you're not gonna ruin my birthday today like you ruined Thanksgiving and Christmas. Because, yes, I AM going to have a happy birthday, and it will be as such the moment you leave. So if you want me to have a happy birthday so bad, you can get to steppin'... [looks at watch"> ...right about now."
She left, and the birthday still sucked anyway. And in all reality, that was the one of the last times I ever unleashed venom in her direction without attempting to be civil about it. I kinda sorta miss those days when I could cuss her out without having a guilty conscience afterwards.
The day she started fooling around on me was the day I ran out of gas returning from getting her a birthday present. Her birthday is in October, and I'm hoping she'll be out of my hair completely by the time that date comes up on the 2005 calendar.
And "bigger person" my a**. You can give all the comebacks in the world, and it doesn't mean you're not the bigger person. Especially if you're goaded into the comebacks by just another lie being told to you.
Re: pissed alonewith2: [quote author=fre link=topic=17517.msg152113#msg152113 date=1124647414">
i DON't WANT to be the bigger person. WHHAAAAAAAA, I WANT MY WAY!!
i did tell the girls several times to make their mother a card, but i wasn't going to force them if they didn't want to.
--fre
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Then I say.....you did your part, and who cares what she thinks. She can't have it all!! What right does she have to expect more from you?
Re: pissed freovir: i DON't WANT to be the bigger person. WHHAAAAAAAA, I WANT MY WAY!!
i did tell the girls several times to make their mother a card, but i wasn't going to force them if they didn't want to.
--fre
Re: pissed LostTeacher: i think you are. why else do you think that you can't come up with the comebacks until it's too late? and don't say it's because you are slow, because you know that is not true. it's because your brain is telling you that you are the bigger person.
Re: pissed alonewith2: Did she mean a card from you or a card from the kids? I don't recognize my STBX's bday, but I do let the kids get him something...with my help.
I don't think you should recognize it at all....not really your responsibility any more, but something from the kids to her might have been appreciated.
Just my 2cents, don't kill me!!!
