2 months later ? no more tears: Hello my friends ( if i can call you that ) Im just having yet another really emotional day and could use some sort of hope from somebody. I realize alot of people going through the 1st few days of the breakup always ask when will it get better. But im not on the 1st few days, its been 2 months now. My question is do any of you remember when u were at the 60 day mark ? ( i know its lame to count the days but thats what im on..day 60 ). Was some of you still in emotional hell ? By what ive read after a month or so u should feel a tad better. Im at 2 months and i feel worse. Any of you ever felt worse after 2 months than better ? Or am i taking this way to hard ? I know it will get better but shouldnt it of already got better even just a tad ?
also i wanna thank you all for being my crutch to lean on this past 2 months :)
Re: 2 months later ? dgiirl: It's been an up and down rollercoaster for me. I dont think I noticed any MAJOR improvement until the 5 month mark. And even then, I was still crying atleast once a day. At around the 6 month period, my mom had to go to the hospital, and I decided at that time it was time to stop mourning my marriage and pay attention to my other areas of my life. I still cry, but maybe a few minutes a day now. I find myself still bargainning once in a while. It's a tough ride, but I do see improvement. The first day I was sitting on the bathroom floor 24/7 crying my eyes out. Then I moved my crying to the bedroom. Then I found I could sleep throughout the night. Then I found instead of crying 24/7 I'd have peace maybe an hour a day or so. It slowly but surely gets better. It's so hard to notice because the crying and the constant thinking of the other person starts to be part of our routine that we just get use to it. We dont realize right away when we're not doing it. If you can find something, no matter how small it is, that's positive, then you're doing better.
Dont worry too much about timelines tho. Everyone situation is different, and people have different amounts of baggage to go through. But as long as you are functioning, eating, getting out, talking to people, then you're doing better.
Read up on the stages of grief. If you dont see yourself experience any of these phases, then you still have some work to do. You go through each phase, and very often bounce between them until you reach the acceptance stage. And somedays you'll accept it, and then the next day be back in depression and bargainning stage.
Re: 2 months later ? Lumpy: Dear No More Tears,
While my memories of that time are somewhat muddled, I'd say I was probably more confused at day 60 than at day one. More things had come to light which made the situation more confusing. You need a healthy distraction! For me it was school. Something constructive and challenging.
Re: 2 months later ? kaya26: I am around the 60 day mark also. This past week has felt like the first. Things did get better for me but this past week has been awful. I feel like I have regressed so much! Hang in there things will get better. It is torture I know. We have all been there or are right there with you. Don't you wish you could just flip a switch and turn off your mind!!!
Re: 2 months later ? dirk8: im on day 40, and I think i feel about the same as the first day.
