Re: I'm new to this....so here goes...
Hopefully not when you are 70 ;) but if you didn't do it until then, you could at least say you eventually did! :)
I do blame my wanting/needing someone in my life on my father. He cheated on every woman he has ever been with which made me want to "wear the pants" in all of my relationships so I wouldn't get hurt. I've also ended every relationship I've been in with the exception of two and one of them was when I was in high school.
What has happened though is that I've never truly let my guard down in any of my relationships, even my 9 yr marriage. I think I let it down a little in my last relationship but then I got hurt so what has happened...you guessed it.....my guard is up again.
I have so many friends that experience the same thing that you and I are feeling. All of these women are independent, career-oriented, pretty, etc... and you would think they wouldn't need anyone in their lives and probably don't admit it (except to friends) that they truly feel that way.
Sometimes when I talk to them it is like a broken record. Sometimes I hate to talk to them b/c that is all I hear but I need to be a good friend and support them b/c they have supported me.
I'm new to this....so here goes... Gem72: I was married for 9 years, divorce final this year, we have 2 kids, I've been dating, I don't consider myself to be unattractive but I find myself going from one relationship to the next. I have several friends going through the same things I am and I can't figure out why is it that I have to have companionship in my life. Why can't I just be happy being alone. Sometimes I am (probably most of the time) but I do seek comfort from others (not sexually) but just wanting someone to hold me etc..
I recently was in a 5 mth relationship and although I knew it wouldn't work out in the long run I continued to hold on and I feel b/c I needed that comfort of knowing there was someone in my life. Eventually he ended the relationship (I am usually the one to end the relationships I've been in). This made me do things I never thought I would do...I didn't want to let go even though my mind said it was the right thing.
Now, I've been dating again. I've met some pretty good guys and now I find myself not wanting to get too attached for the reason I don't want to get hurt.
I just am at a loss. Take it a little easy on me....I am new to this....but I do like honesty....thanks!
Re: I'm new to this....so here goes... mine: hi gem
we all take it easy on you
do me a favour
please re post this on tell your story here
you will or should get more response
ant
Re: I'm new to this....so here goes... Gem72: Thanks....
Re: I'm new to this....so here goes... mine: you are welcome....
my time is nearly done on this site
everything is going well for me
but it has been a great help
feel free to send me a private message anytime....
it will always get sent to my email
ant
