Re: Divorce is final today
Divorce is final today moni: I'm new this this site, but figured that I would be a nice way to get a lot frustration out in the "open". I finally received notice that my divorce is final. I would think that I would be incredibly happy about it, and I am for the most part. I separated a year ago in June 2004, filed for divorce in December, and it is now final in August.
It feels that for the past year I've been on an emotional rollercoaster and it is not ending. The separation itself came as a huge shock to me, it was totally unexpected. One minute I feel that we're going along, not exactly incredibly happy, but after six years of marriange, I figured that things would get harder. I was thinking about having children, and I suppose he was thinking that he wasn't ready to settle down. It was a painful separation, and I still don't quite know how to explan what exactly went wrong. I honestly thought that if I put enough effort and time into the relationship it could have worked. Logically I know that there needs to be an effort on the part of the two individuals, not just one. But, I tried so hard...We had been high school sweethearts, had been together for a total of fifteen years and to see it all just end is so incredibly painful.
At this point, I think that I am completely over him. I'm just mourning the relationship that I thought we had, or at least the one that I was striving so hard to obtain. Does this make any sense?
Re: Divorce is final today WhiskeyGirl: Yes it makes perfect sense.....having the divorce final would for sure bring back some old memories and pain and you have every right to mourn the loss of your relationship....its a sad thing. Its strange....my horse had to be put to sleep a few months ago and I remember posting that I thought I had gone nuts because it had me mourning the loss of my relationship with my ex too.....just another peice of my past gone you know? and it had been a yr and a half for me....so it still pops up from time to time. He was a huge part of your life....and now that chapter is closed. Perfectly understandable to be a bit sad about that I'd say :)
Welcome to OJAR...keep posting :)
Whiskey
Re: Divorce is final today AmyMarie1972: I totally understand. I am totally over my ex, but do find myself still feeling down every now and then about the relationship that has been lost.
I think that it is all just part of the recovering.
Take care and welcome to Ojar
Amy
Re: Divorce is final today Ian: That day, June 23, was awful for me. I cried (guys in the South are not supposed to do that) and barricaded myself in my office all afternoon. When I got home my ex called me and she was crying too - thought maybe mabye we had some spark of what used to be but that was wishful thinking - anyway you will get through it, hang in there. It doesn't get easier, at least not after a few months, but you can find strength in yourself you didn't know was there and it helps pull you through. Just remeber to never give up on yourself and remember that you are worthwhile as a person and that what one person and their family and friends think about you does not mean anything at all - your sense of self worth is not determined by what others think.
