The early days..how to deal PickingUpThePieces: I posted my story earlier today, sorry for the length, I guess I had a lot to get out. It is now 1:45 a.m. and I'm feeling bad, physically and emotionally. it's been 2 days since my husband left. I was able to finally get to sleep a little after 11. I felt like I was going crazy in this house - I heard noise in the hallway and thought it was either him coming home or coming to bed. i'd close my eyes and think I heard him cough, once My own thumb brushed my leg and I thought it was him poking me, which he used to do in bed. I jumped. I woke up feeling bad physically - stomach pain, feeling like I needed to run to the bathroom (which I just did), nauseous, terrible headache. Stomach is feeling a bit better and the headache is starting to go away (took Tylenol) but oh, how do you deal in these early days? I've been around family and friends a lot and have been calling people, but being in this house is so hard sometimes. I look around and see "our" and his things, and places where his things used to be. I have no appetite, no desire to do anything. I'm going to work but know I won't be able to concentrate. But yet, I can't stay in this house all day. How do you cope in those early days?
PUTP
Re: The early days..how to deal WhiskeyGirl: PUTP.....This post really brings back memories for me :-\ I was the same when my ex first left....he drove truck and I was sure I would hear the semi gear down, I'd even hear the airbrakes and the truck idling outside the house.....I would lie there and wait for him to come in...I'd wait and wait....and nothing...so Id get up and look.....nope, no truck...all in my head :'( God! it was heartbreaking.....I dont know what to say.....it truely does get better...honestly. Try watching tv or reading until you doze off.....start a new routine in the evenings....just for you....Bubble bath with candles, relaxing music, do your nails, give your self a pedicure....whatever you want to add to your own little routine do it. It helps to fill your evenings up with things to do and it helps to have a routine you can count on....even if it doesnt include him.
Take Care of yourself....I am sorry this is so hard....I remember the pain very well but it really will get better with time :)
Whiskey
Re: The early days..how to deal AmyMarie1972: Hi,
I started by clearing away all the photo's that were hanging up, special gifts that he had bought that were on display, the love notes that i used to keep at the side of the bed that he had written. Just went around the house and boxed it all then put the box in the attic.
I also started keeping a journal where I put down all my feelings and thoughts, it seemed to help to get it out of my head for a while.
I kept my family on the phone for hours, and they really did all help me to get through it.
It does get easier but it does take time and you have to deal with everything the best way for you to deal with it all. You will get there and you will reach a point where your life is back on track and going the way that you want it to.
Take care of yourself
Amy
Re: The early days..how to deal ti-poux: PUTP,
Since its the early days, you will be crying and its ok...let it out, talk about it, write about be lazy and mope for a few days.
Then you can start to pick yourself up and start doing things
that make you happy. Slowly you will begin to feel a little better.
Its time to re-invent the wheel and see what power lies in you.
Be strong and keep posting
HUGS
Ti-poux
Re: The early days..how to deal Cowboy12: PUTP..... I really feel for you as well, we all, men included have been there, I am not going to offer you advice as Whiskey, Ti-Poux, AM, & Absolute having given great advice and like them I never thought I woud see the day it would get better...it does, trust us it does.
Know that we all care for you, and will help you get through this difficult stage, hang on in there, and post as often as you can...
Be gentle on yourself, don't try to look for reasons, and DON'T BLAME yourself.
