Re: Mother-in-law causes divorce hudson: Cheers to whiskey, sourpuss and Medusa for realizing that the MIL isn't the real problem here, but the husband. If he doesn't learn to stand up to his mother and represent you as his first and foremost priority you will continue to have problems with this. TRUST ME.
Mother-in-law causes divorce elijah13: :-\
My husband has no concept of the word no, when it comes to his mother.
She things of him more of a husband than a son. I can't take her possessiveness, and what's worse is that she has told him lies in all shapes and colors to get him to leave me. I have asked him to go dancing with me, walking along the beach, vacations and he tells me he's not interested if I can't do things with his mother. We have a three month old son, she has never come to our home to see him, we have to take him to her house all the time........the day we came home from the hospital.....I had 16 staples, it was raining and cold and we HAD to stop at her house so her husband could see the baby. My husband didn't have the backbone to tell her no.
To make matters worse, we work together, and she has made all her friends hate me, they barely look at me much less talk to me.
She has called me by her ex-daughter in-laws name (more than once) so I doubt it's a mistake. She never calls our house, she only calls him on his call phone, and everytime I try to talk to him about this he tells me it's my fault she and I have this war.
I don't want to destroy my family, but I can't see this getting any better.
She tried to have her other son convince my husband to have a prenup signed before we got married.
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Re: Mother-in-law causes divorce WhiskeyGirl: Elijah....wow, your story is so similar to mine its scarey. Your husband needs councelling, badly.....he need to redefine his realtionship with his mother...change it from an parent/child relationship...to an adult one. He also needs to learn boundaries. He has let her become a part of your marriage....which should be a 2 person arrangement. Wow! I have been there girl! Oh have I been there. My MIL caused so many problems in our relationship it wasnt even funny.....she even came to our counselling sessions!! HELLO! I didnt need her at counselling...she can be as fucked up as she wants...what I wanted was a husband who would stand up for me, take MY side for once, and one who wouldnt allow intruders into our marriage. Unfortunately that never happened for me, we split over a yr ago ......he moved (YEP you guessed it) Back in with his mommy ::)
I am so sorry....I know exactly how frustrating that is. I hope he comes to his senses.....have you tried counselling?
Whiskey
Re: Mother-in-law causes divorce sourpuss: unfortunately, the problem here is not your mother-in-law.
it is your husband.
i agree with whiskeygirl, you should consider counselling, even if you have to go alone.
Re: Mother-in-law causes divorce clambakesX: Sourpuss is right. Your honey needs a spinal implant.
Check out the discussion boards at
www.motherinlawstories.com
There's a strong core of women there who showed me how to deal with my now-ex and his inability to stand up for himself. You might still end up divorced (look at me!) but the responsibility will rest where it should.
