Anxiety clambakesX: Anyone deal with anxiety?
I've very recently realized that my anxiety levels have always been extremely high. I've let that prevent me from doing a lot of things that come easily to others.
Was briefly on meds for this at some point in college (aeons ago!) and didn't find that to be the best answer.
Re: Anxiety browngreen: mEdusa,
Well, I already know you're an active person or I'd suggest exercising so that your body just doesn't physically have the reseources to put into anxiety symptoms, and becasue exercise has a way of focusing, distracting, and giving you a good vibe throughout.
I'm sorry, I don't have much more to suggest. I know we can
t always go running or swimming everytime we need to, and there are a lot of problems one can't exercise their way out of.
when I get anxious, I talk to someone, about anything. Sometimes I talk about unrelated things, and other times I talk about whatever is on my mind, but I frame it as "So you want to know what happened today?" and make it into a type of story-- at least that way I get to see the humor in it, and often, so does my friend. If not humor, the entertainment value.
All I can really say is that once I have faced my fear, whatever it might be, I can handle it better, and it doesn't stress me out so much.
but a lot of anxiety is a pattern and is physiologically addicting. Our bodies want the vibe, so a circumstance, or thought, that is anxiety producing is created to give us the "fix".
This is my main problem. I can be having NOTHING, absolutely nothing remotely crazy going on, but my heart rate will go up, and I'll find myself chasing my tail all over the house, or being easily irritated and/or preoccupied. Cognitively, I can say "Why am I so freaked by this? It's not a big deal, and even if it was, there's not a thing I can do about it RIGHT NOW." But nevertheless, there it is.
Or rather, There I am.... wringing my hands, wanting to fidget or run for cover. then i know it's just me being anxious because I happen to built like this at this point in my life, and for some reason, that helps a lot.
Also, it helps me to hang out witih non anxious tpyes of people. The kind where you can say "someone just ran into your car!" and they raise their eyebrows and go "O, really? Wow" and calmly go look-- just deal with it, and face the reprecussions one at a time, as they come to them to be dealt with.
Does that help at all? Sorry I don't ahve anything better for ya. I'm with ya on the not wanting meds, tho.
BG
Re: Anxiety clambakesX: Thanks BG and FG.
I'm not opposed to meds, if they would work, but they don't and they're not a long-term solution anyway.
I don't know what =causes= the anxiety really ... my parents were very big into corporal punishment and I suspect that there's something there even though I technically know I'm not going to get hit for doing something "wrong" now.
Re: Anxiety dgiirl: Yep, I have anxiety. Dont know how to handle it tho. The best thing that helps me at the moment is talking about my fears. Once I know the worse case scenario, things dont bother me as much.
But the biggest trouble I have is when I get into an argument, I cant seem to turn the conversation off and it goes on and on in my head. It can drive me insane :( They tell me to relax and stuff, but it's so damn hard. I dont even notice myself doing it until like 10 mins into the madness.
Re: Anxiety Mart: Yes, I have anxiety attacks. It happens mostly in the mornings (after I spent the night dreaming about the ex and our ex-life, turning and tossing... and waking up to an empty other side of the bed). I still am unable to take the public transportation to go to work, so I take my car. It is costing me a fortune.
I never had anxiety attacks before the breakup, so I am not sure how to handle them. I just take deep breaths and wait until it stops.
Mart
