Broken Hearted HerEyes73: Hi everyone. I am glad that I foiund this bulletin board. It will be nice to have a place to vent to others who are going through the same thing. I have been married to my husband for almost 6 years and he told me a week ago that he wants a divorce. I wasn't surprised, things weren't perfect...but nothing catastrophic has gone on that in my opinion cannot be repaired.
This really hurts because I am still in love with him. He is the only man I have ever truly loved and this is the first time my heart has been broken. I thought this would be forever...well, I guess we all did.
He hasn't moved out yet, which is difficult. Right now we are seperating all of our accounts, insurances, etc.
This is really tough...
Thanks for listening.
~Alicia
Re: Broken Hearted hardened_heart1970: your welcome. read and post lots.
can you get away from him, if this is the way he wants to go? there are a few on here, that tried living with ex for a while, and its a disaster.
i wish the best for you, no matter what way you go. and hopefully it will work out for you....
welcome to ojar....... super dan
Re: Broken Hearted Grinning_Madly: Did he bother to give an explanation why he wants out?
He owes that to you. You need closure.
Re: Broken Hearted HerEyes73: Thanks for the support...
We will only be staying in the same house until he finds an apartment...it shouldn't be long. He works ungodly hours, so we're not together much anyway.
The only explanation I got was that he doesn't feel the same way about me as he used to and he doesn't want to try anymore. It's just sad, because there was no infidelity, or anything major to talk about. We have just gone through some rough patches where I have said and done things to hurt him and vice versa. I tried talking him out of it, but he is set on what he wants. All I keep thinking of is the lyrics to that song...
Turn down the lights, turn down the bed
Turn down these voices, inside my head
Lay down with me, tell me no lies
Just hold me close, don't patronize
Don't patronize me
Chorus:
cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
But you won't
No, you won't
And I can't make you love me, if you don't
I close my eyes, then I won't see
The love you don't feel, when you're holding me
Morning will come, and I'll do what's right
Just give me till then, to give up this fight
And I will give up this fight
Chorus
Ain't no use in you trying
You don't love me
Baby, ain't no use in you trying
If you don't love me
Ain't nothing I can do
What's the use in trying if he says he doesn't feel 'that way' anymore. I think I would be more miserable living with someone and tryimg to please them if they don't want to be there...
Re: Broken Hearted PickingUpThePieces: I am pretty new to all this too, and know exactly how you're feeling. My husband began the process of moving out on Saturday...he is staying elsewhere but has been coming back to get more and more of his things. There had been ongoing issues, but we had been trying to work them out/through them. things between us hadn't been the same and had been tense, but when he told me he was leaving it was still a shock. It's only been a few days, but I feel a little bit better than I did that day. I've gotten tremendous support from family, friends, and co-workers, it's amazing how much people care about you. Their support has been helping me, and so has this site...been able to make a few posts and have been reading tons of others. I feel for you. :(
