Re: How relevant is age? charmed: Age can be relevent or irrelevent, depending on the two people involved. If an older woman is with a much younger man and he wants children and she is no longer fertile that could cause a problem. Adoption would be an option, but again that depends on the two people.
If both parties look into the future in a realistic manner and know the possible obstacles and can deal with them, age gaps won't matter.
My husband was older than me. Stupid me, I thought maturity came with age and the longer I was married to him, I saw that I was more mature at 20 than he'll ever be.
My ex-bf was younger than me and I'll have to say that the compatability was the greatest I'd ever had. He is very intelligent and doesn't find too many good matches in his age group. He's always gravitated towards older women. Now I haven't really had a preference as far as age. If they "fit", they "fit" regardless of age.
My ex-bf often said he was afraid he couldn't keep up with me LOL In the areas that really matter we were a perfect match. Sure he could sometimes let the kid out a little too much, but that was ok because the man always returned LOL
I do see a problem with a 15 year old and a 25 year old. One is a child, although they may be mature for their age and the other is an adult. A 30 year old and a 40 or 45 year old is different. Both are adults, even though one or the other might not act that way LOL
`charmed
Re: How relevant is age? hudson: I'm 32, i've been dating a 20 year old for about 2-3 months now. I don't find her age to be a problem too much. But then again, I don't know if I see anything long term with her either...i'm not looking into the future right now.
Her young age has yet to be restrictive to us in any way. She knows how to have a good time, she's fun, she's sweet, and she sensible... that's what I like right now in my life.
It all depends on what you're looking for. I'm not looking for a woman who is my intellectual equal, I'm not looking for a woman to discuss world issues with, I'm just looking for someone to hang with and have fun with. And that's what I have....for now. That could change in the near future though.
Re: How relevant is age? PnR: I had a boyfriend who was 10 years older than me once.
It didn't work cause he wanted to party every weekend and I wasn't up for it.
Re: How relevant is age? in_search_of: TH, I can totally understand where you are coming from.
And therefore, I get to share again...lol...
G, is 10 years older than me...making him gasp, shock, 35...( I remind him on a regular basis that he has been a cop longer than I have been out of HS...lol, and he didn't do that until he was out of the navy...)
My grandparents were about 8 years apart, and were happily married until my grandmother's death (52 years).
My great grandparents were 20 years apart and happily married until my great grandpa's death, and my great grandma, being quite the chick before her time was on her second marriage when she married him.
Age is just a number. Do G and I have problems because of the age difference, no more than we would have had if we had been the same age. We don't have problems talking and relating because of age or any of that. We are good together, despite a 10 year age difference. I see nothing wrong with it.
Now explaining to my 16 year old that dating a 26 year old is not okay, will be a challenge, but let me tell you what ... we will just have an arse kicking party...lol
Re: How relevant is age? ColoHill: My dad is 13 years older than my step-mom...They say as you get older, age differences matter less. But, then you pass that and as you continue to age, I think they may play a roll again. I mean, you can be 45 and he'll be almost 60. So, while you are still a young hottie, he will be old. I am not to one to ask...I dated a guy 16 years older than me and didn't really think it was a big deal. But, as time goes on, maybe it would be again...Good luck!!!!
