Re: 2 "friends" came forward alonewith2: I have to agree with Lumpy. The same thing happened to me. I had all sorts of people come out of the woodwork to tell me little things about my STBX. Of course he didn't admit to the majority of them......I was able to weed out the truth from the lies by asking dates/times/etc.....I also found pictures that later corraborated some of the stories, but there were some that weren't true at all. But it didn't really matter. He was a cheater, my friends weren't really my friends, and life goes on.
There are three sides to every story.......his...hers.....and the truth lies somewhere in the middle.
Re: 2 "friends" came forward Lumpy: Does it really matter at this point? You know he cheated. Does it matter with whom and when? Sounds ta me like these "friends" are as unreliable as your ex. Seperate yourself from these losers.
Re: 2 "friends" came forward tyrogers: There was a thread about this somewhere the other day. Hang on, lemme find it for ya.
BBH
Re: 2 "friends" came forward tyrogers: http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,18468.0.html
Here it is. Might give you some insight honey.
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Re: 2 "friends" came forward edgecombe: Of course I can't speak for your friends or know if they were telling you the truth or not. But I do know that when a friend's SO hits on you, it puts you in a helluva awkward position. You don't want to hurt your friend if you know she's really into this guy, and you also don't want to take the risk of your friend thinking you're lying. It makes you question whether the SO was REALLY hitting on you, or if you misinterpreted or exaggerated... espacially if it was very subtle. I remember being in this position and thinking distinctly "She'll find out eventually on her own", because I did not want to jeopardize our friendship over something I wasn't positive actually happened.
Nonetheless, I would want my friends to tell me if my SO hit on them, so I know where you're coming from. However, it doesn't seem like either of these girls was really your friend, particularly the second girl. And it seems like you have already realized that he didn't have your best interest at heart. In actuality, they were probably all telling half the truth and half lying. You deserve better friends, but don't let that make you stop trusting people. Just be thankful these particular jerks are out of your life and move on.
