Re: i am new bflamini: oh my gosh, im so sorry........now that i read your entire situation i see that i am in a different area than you completely.
i hope you find help on here, i know that i am.
Re: i am new bhollar: Tweetie,
I'm new as well and it seems we are going through very similar emotions. 12 year relationship, 8 week struggle, and called it quits about 4 weeks ago. Wow, how can something that lasted for so long end so abruptly?!
Anyway, I thought I'd say hi and give you a shoulder.
Re: i am new bflamini: i am really only in the process of trying to get through every day. i am finding out how to take care of my kids on my own, work 40+ hours and take care of an entire household alone. not that he was much help there anyway, but the absolute lack of him has really shown me what alone is all about.
i am not sure he has totally accepted that we are over or not! he cant seem to come to terms with the fact that we are over. i keep waiting for him to hit me with it again, its happened twice so far......he seems to wait until he thinks im not mad anymore, or just gives it some time and then when my defenses are down says he wants to work things out still.
the final blow for me was when the cops showed up at our door and found his drugs (immature plants that amounted to only a court appearance, which he keeps trying to make sound like its to irrelevant!!) and confiscated them. we had been having troubles previous to this, and i had told him straight up, it was the drugs or us. (yea yea, talking just a little dope smoking i know, its not just a little smoking though when he smoked it like a person smokes cigarettes) he had agree'd to TRY to quit when all of this happened. so i guess he wasnt trying too hard huh?
he is now living with his mother, and i am living with mine.
Re: i am new helpmehelphim: Welcome Tweetie,
This is a great place for support and expressing yourself.
It is tiring doing it all, especially with little ones, best of luck to you and let us know how we can support you.
Re: i am new Suddenly Single: Hi Tweetie,
I'm glad you got it moved. I hope it gets responses - you'll definately get more here!
Are you in the process of getting a lawyer and taking care of your finances and paperwork for divorce or are you both going to legally separate?
Lonliness is normal and you are going to feel that but you need to evaluate if you are having a second thoughts because of your situation or is it strictly the lonliness speaking?
Why did you ask him to leave? Where is he now? Where are you?
You have found a good place here - ss
