Darn it! I looked at his photos! skooz: It's been about a year since my STBX left me and during all this time I had completely refused to even take a look at anything that reminded me of him. Today a friend came over after work and asked me to show her photos and there he was, the man I spent a few good years of my life with, his smile, his eyes, those dimples, the places we visited, the things we did together, our common friends, our house, where we used to live... Everything! My friend looked at me with her "Don't you cry, please" face and I was there, just speechless, no reaction. I started explaining to her what everything was, where the photos were taken, as if I were looking at a book I was about to buy or something. It was, indeed, a very strange feeling and I'm still wondering if it was a good reaction or if panic is about to set in.
Have I reached a point where I just don't care or am I fooling myself?
Re: Darn it! I looked at his photos! ti-poux: Hi frogster,
Wow a year already, you have made some progress.
It's always hard to look at photos of our ex's.
Maybe its the memories, or the hopes of what could have been,
the familiar face...no matter what it is...its ok to cry and feel weird,
it's all part of grieving and after all this person will always be
stored in your memories but as in time goes by the intenseness of
the emotions will be less obvious.
Best of luck
ti-poux
Re: Darn it! I looked at his photos! PnR: Of course you will feel sad looking at photo's makes one remember the good times.
Re: Darn it! I looked at his photos! skooz: Yes, I know I'll feel sad for a while. I guess I've been trying to block his memories somehow, but he's always on my mind. Today's like the aftershock after looking at the pictures and believe me, it doesn't feel funny. But I'm not going to stay here dwelling on it.
Re: Darn it! I looked at his photos! lost in midland: I just had a talk with my ex-wife about photos. When she moved out last September she took everyone. Today would have been 14 years married. I have been asking for 1/2 of the pictures for along time. She ammitted to me she dosn't know if she can go though them. I just thought she was being nasty and trying to hurt me. I just what the ones with the kids but i am sure I will get some with her in them. I told her maybe we could go though them together and she said no. You seem well on your way to recovery and I am getting thier. Maybe I don't want the pictures back. Thanks for posting.......
