Re: Makes you wonder... ga_sunshyne: Being that I had been w/my XH for over half of my adult life and for 22 years he was the ONLY man that I ever had any kind of intimacy with, that was the part I guess that hurt me the most. THe one thing in our marriage that I held sacred and he betrayed me. Honest to God, when he finally admitted it to me it felt like someone ripped my heart right out of my chest. And even now after a year of separation and 7 months of divorce, any poor guy who even tries to kiss me gets the cold shoulder. I AM DIVORCED, so why is it that when I am in a situation like that, I feel as if I am cheating on him???? GOtta get past that. I have never been alone, so this living alone (except when I have my son)thing is gettin' old. I climb the friggin' walls. (Which by the way are sparklin' clean cuz when I am bored I break out the cleaning stuff).
OKay, so until now I didn't realize how lonely I have really been :'(
Sunshyne
Re: Makes you wonder... Lumpy: [quote author=Yeehaw link=topic=19068.msg172413#msg172413 date=1127391585">
I don't know if there ARE answers.
What goes through somebody's mind when they decide to cheat is something I cannot fathom - it simply DOES NOT MAKE SENSE to me.
Why is it that coming to the conclusion that the cheaters are just INSANE fits?
Maybe beautifulgirl is correct - don't think.
:-\
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I think Bubba hit it on the head when he mentioned acceptance. I can't concieve of the circumstance where I would've cheated on my wife. (or anyone for that matter) I'm simply not capable of it. It sounds like you're cut from the same cloth. Like you, I will never understand it. All I can do is accept that it happened.
Re: Makes you wonder... ga_sunshyne: Depends on the emotions YeeHaw!!! THen again I have mood swings....hmmm...maybe that's why everyone here at work thinks i am a nutcase. It has been rough on the emotions tho....
Sunshyne
Re: Makes you wonder... Yeehaw: [quote author=Medusa link=topic=19068.msg172514#msg172514 date=1127398354">
C'mon over to the club, Yeehaw!
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Nah, emotions are good, I like 'em.
;)
Just gotta separate the wheat from the chaff.
:P
Re: Makes you wonder... kfc75: Somedays the hows and whys consume me. Lately I have taken to telling myself... "listen, buddy. You know that she's not coming back, and you don't want her back. STOP beating a dead horse" it seems to have been helping for now! But I agree that we are so obcessed by why because we don't want to go thru this crapola again, what sicko would?
