Re: Question bjs2005: I have unlovingly refered to myself and well, others like me as the "Walking Wounded." I've jokingly told another ojarian that I think there's more baggage here than in a Samsonite outlet.
Heh, gotta laugh at yourself or other people are going to do it for you.
Re: Question dgiirl: [quote author=KFC link=topic=19082.msg172290#msg172290 date=1127360154">
To be honest part of me says maybe I would prefer to date another divorced person, I want someone who understands what its like to go thru this kind of pain, I want someone who has already learned the lessons, and has experienced some growth to get where they are.
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I agree with you KFC. Someone who's experienced this wont look at the other as damaged goods either. They'll be a lot more understanding and forgiving. But I'm in a position where I'd want a divorcee with no kids. Just because I havent enjoyed the experience of having kids and would like to share that with someone for the first time.
Re: Question ChristyM: We are all different and I don't consider us damaged goods. Me personally, I would prefer to date a divorced dad with kids. I feel he would be best equipped to empathize with what I was going through. Not that other men wouldn't have great qualities, I just seem to gravitate towards the divorced men. However, I am also 37 so that sorta comes along with the age bracket I'm dating in. I definitely will not date a younger guy that's looking forward to starting a family.
Never be ashamed of your divorce, instead emphasize the fact life threw you a curve ball and you were able to get through it and become a better, stronger person.
Christy
Question sigkapgirl: I was just hoping for some feedback on this one: Most of the time, I'm totally confident with myself, but sometimes I start to think of myself as "damaged goods" as far as future relationships go. (And please no one bash me for the termonology. I couldn't think of any other way to put it).
So, do you ever feel this way? What do you do to justify to yourself that you're NOT?
Re: Question cdoulatiff: I often feel this way, probably because my bf says he would never marry someone that has 2 kids!!! I feel like, well, darn, no matter how good I do in my career or my family life I'm still not good enough!!
