Seeing the lawyer today... PickingUpThePieces: So today is my first lawyer appt. I've been off Ojar for a few days. My husband, I discovered, as we were living in the same house, had definitely cheated when he left for a week - he was living with an old girlfriend from high school. As we were living together but separated (after I turned down his attempt at reconciliation) I noted personal ads on the computer and last Thursday night when he went out (on a date) I checked his email and got confirmation of his cheating, which had begun before he actually left. I forwarded these emails to myself to print out, and I decided to take the bank account money and leave to live elsewhere due to his temper (he'd been verbally abusive in our marriage, created lots of debt with his compulsive spending, and had broken things when angry). Of course he'd discovered what I'd done with the bank account, called me and screaming match ensued. Monday he began text messaging me with demands. I went to the house yesterday to check mail and found out he changed the locks. All good info for the lawyer.
So I am ready to see the lawyer today and start this process. I feel hurt and betrayed by what he's done, but mostly I'm angry. Very angry. And I want to be away/divorced from him as soon as possible.
Wish me luck!
Re: Seeing the lawyer today... clambakesX: Good luck and lots of strength and serenity, PUTP!
Re: Seeing the lawyer today... Dire Wolf: Good luck PUTP. I'm happy for you to have found the strength to do what you need to remove him from your life. It sounds like he had little respect for your marrage so you owe him zero respect when you are just trying to put your world, he has shattered, back together. I hope I can find that inner strengh within me in the weeks and months to come. Best of luck!!
DW
