Rage Dire Wolf: >:( I am feeling so much of it today. Anyone know any good anger management techniques to sooth this rage I'm feeling? The fact that she left and moved into an apartment that is 300ft from my back door makes things so much worse. She had the affair with this man and moved out on the kids and myself and expects me to bend over backwards for her(wants my cell phone for the OM, makes me watch him drive my 2005 Jeep Liberty, calls me and talks like she hasn't a care in the world). God, I need to vent this rage. I've tried cleaning my house from top to bottom but it's still there.
This guy is 30, on welfare(cause he's milking a bogus injury), no car, has a female roomate paying for the appartment, drinks and smokes pot all day, and has never had a job longer than 2 months. I am the exact oposite. This is killing my self esteam. I am about as laid back as they come(ex-hippie). I have a gift for letting shit roll over me and can keep my cool, but this rage is intense. I believe strongly in Karma so it kills me living with this hate in my soul. What can I do to lessen it? Any suggestions? ???
Re: Rage Lumpy: From the sound of it this is going to blow up in her face. How much of this guy can she stomach. Once the infatuation wears off she will be knocking at your door. Steel yourself for this cause it's comin'. Also, don't do jack for her! Tell me your not making the payments on the Jeep. Either take it back or sign it over to her. Let holmes get his own cell phone. You can help her understand the implications of her decisions. You want to leave me and the kids? Fine. You leave with your clothes and personal effects. Don't ask me for anything else. As far as the anger goes I wouldn't try to divert it. It's valid. Try to harness it. Physical labor and working out helped for me. Anger can be very motivating.
Re: Rage Dire Wolf: Well, the anger is helping keep me motivated because I am doing everything I can to show her I don't need her. I can do it all by myself(dealing with the kids school, making sure they're fed and clean, paying my bills, keeping the house spotless, and working 50 hours a week). I just get so pissed when I talk to her and she makes sure I know she had a girls night out with all her new friends she's known all of 3 weeks. Meanwhile I'm stuck at home because I am actually looking after my kid's best interests and not my own. I'd love to be going out every night but I have a little thing called responsability.
An no way in hell I'm paying a nickel on that Jeep. She offered to buy me out but that means her taking a loan from her credit union which could fall back on me cause we're still married. She only works 2 days a week and I've always busted my ass working 50+ hours to support her and this is the thanks I get. I cannot wait til she crashes and burns so I can be there to laugh my ass off. I told her I would drive over that cell phone with my truck before she gets it to give to that loser. GET A JOB AND BUY YOUR OWN DAMN PHONE!!!!!!!!!!
Re: Rage charmed: As a normally unusally calm and collected person LOL, I also get a few stages of rage.
I try to think about ... I'm so glad I'm "me", instead of "him".
Hitting walls helps, but boxing gloves are better. Exercising can lessen the rage. Writing (for me poetry) is a good way to vent your feelings. Anything that brings the feelings "out" (without harming) instead of letting them fester will help.
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As a normally unusally calm and collected person LOL, I also get a few stages of rage.
I try to think about ... I'm so glad I'm "me", instead of "him".
Hitting walls helps, but boxing gloves are better. Exercising can lessen the rage. Writing (for me poetry) is a good way to vent your feelings. Anything that brings the feelings "out" (without harming) instead of letting them fester will help.
((((hugs))))
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I tried meditating, but then a million thoughts are racing through my head. I started a jounal to keep track of my and her everyday activities just for the record but I find myself getting even more angry as I write everything she has done over the last 2 weeks. I tried packing up her things but that just made me depressed. I can contoll it but I feel it eating away at me. I hate to hate, but I cannot help it. I thing I do need to hit something. Wish I had a punching bag. God, I hate this feeling.
