Re: friends disappearing missycristin: I like wallowing in self pity and I imagine I am not all that much fun to be around. I only have one close friend here, the rest are just people I go out with from time to time, like drinkin' buddies. The close friend I have,
kind of fell by the way side when I was with my ex, b/c he was male, and someone I dated in the past. When we did hang out, my ex was usually there too. Anyway, he's the only one who is supportive of me right now even though he has the biggest reason not to be.
It's very depressing esp. when I know that my ex has ten of his boys backing him up every weekend.
While I just sit here and cry.
friends disappearing lonelywithouthim: Does anyone find it strange that the friends I had while with my ex (male friends) have suddenly disappeared when I need them the most? There are 2 in particular. They were ALWAYS there when I needed someone to talk to or hang out with when my hubby and I were having problems, and now that I'm not with him anymore they blow me off every chance they get. I don't get it.. I know it has nothing to do with my ex cause he barely knew them, so I just don't understand. ??? Either way, it's annoying and it hurts me feelings :'(
Re: friends disappearing Debbie: The only thing I could think of is because they were only your friends when you were still a couple, now there is too much drama for them. They are overwhelmed and do not want to be brought down by how you are feeling. I had this happen to me also, but I find out quickly those were not my real friends. My real friends cried with me and held me when I needed them. There are real friends you have that will be there when the times really get tough. Believe me I didn't think I had those kinds of friends until last Sat when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. I called one friend and she said get in your car and bring your girls and come over I will be home soon. that is all she said and i have been staying with her and her spouse ever since. I have cried she has taken me to see a therapist. I just moved here a year ago and she is one of the best friends I have every had.
Debbie
Re: friends disappearing Lumpy: Is your ex the jealous type? Maybe he had a little "talk" with them or something. Have you tried talking to them about it?
Re: friends disappearing lonelywithouthim: [quote author=Lumpy link=topic=19589.msg179182#msg179182 date=1128146175">
Is your ex the jealous type? Maybe he had a little "talk" with them or something. Have you tried talking to them about it?
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He doesn't have any way of contacting them, and I doubt he would do it anyway. I don't know what they're problem is. Maybe it's because i'm not a challenge anymore? Who knows?
