I COULD USE SOME SUPPORT HERE... unhappy: I get to go to a big wedding this weekend. Because its a family wedding we get to start tonight(the weddings saturday night)!
I AM HAPPY FOR THEM BUT, with everything that has happened lately I know I will feel a little blue at some point during this weekend. So, any wise words of wisdom to help me over this one......?
Re: I COULD USE SOME SUPPORT HERE... Dharma Bum: Get drunk and stupid, try to score with somebody hot! Actually, I just had friends get engaged last night and I keep crying I am so happy, but also bittersweet because I remember how happy we were during that time. There is nothing you can do other than open yourself up to the emotions. You're going to need a good cry, so take it outside and let it rip, then come back and say "Yeah, just allergies." It's okay to feel sorry for how things worked out for yourself and happy for others. Just don't get bitter about it and be one of those "you'll regret this day for the rest of your life..." people. Hell, maybe you'll meet somebody nice at the wedding and have a good time for yourself, too. But, I'd avoid the booze, personally! :D
Re: I COULD USE SOME SUPPORT HERE... in_search_of: I wish I had some wiser words of wisdom on this one. The first wedding that you have to go to after the separation is hard. Do you have someone that you can take with you, a friend? That made it easier for me. But who knows.
I am sure though, that if you decided that you needed to sit this one out that your family would understand.
Re: I COULD USE SOME SUPPORT HERE... PiscesGoddess: I agree with ISO.. Im sure your family would understand if you are just not up to it yet. No need to rub salt in wounds that are still fresh hon..
If anything.. Play sick!
but if you feel you really have to go..like ISO said take a friend for support.
Good luck!
Pisces
Re: I COULD USE SOME SUPPORT HERE... jt5639: I don't know how long it's been for you since you seperated...I just went to the first wedding since my break-up last weekend...it was hard at times, but it was a friends wedding, and a bunch of friends were there with me and I just made them dance with me all night long. And people are so friendly at weddings, I talked with a lot of new people - you automatically have something in common.
I also had a really great moment of release or something. My ex and I were not married, but were together for 5 years and I truly thought we were going to get married. As I listened to the vows I almost felt relieved. My ex could not have said those things to me, at least not have kept those vows. It is very bitter-sweet, but it was "good" to realize. I deserve somone who will put effort into cherising and trying to keep those vows.
- jt
