Re: Am I a leper on ojar? Justgothen: Thanks for posting. I did confront them last night, but I didn't hurt anyone or do anything really stupid. I don't care anymore. I am tired of the lies. I emailed him today and told him that I will be getting a lawyer on Monday. I truly never want to see him again.
Something really cool happened while I was talking to him, though. Some girl came out of the beer garden (where they were when I confronted him) and she says to me (outloud so everyone can hear) "Girl, you are so much prettier than that lady. She has nothing on you. You don't need this loser". She was drunk and her boyfriend was pulling her away, but it felt good. And he heard it. It's silly, but it made me feel better. I still hate that smug bastard.
Am I a leper on ojar? Justgothen: I don't understand, I asked for help. Nobody responded. My stbx is down the street RIGHT NOW with his floozy. I want to go there and beat them both. I need help. Anybody understand this?? I don't want to do anything stupid.
Re: Am I a leper on ojar? AloneandCold: No, no leapers. Let me go check your other thread. trust me if no one answered it was not intentionally to ignore you.
Re: Am I a leper on ojar? SunnyFlower: No!
I'm sure it's not intentional!
As for immediate advice-
Do you have kids that can give you strength? (I'm sorry if you've mentioned having/not having them in recent posts...I just recently started becomming an active member on this board again...) I know SO MANY TIMES I've wanted to do somehting irrational, act on my angry feelings, and then I'd think about my baby and keep a level head for my son's sake...
Take a deep breath. BREATHE and remove yourself from the situation for a moment...
Re: Am I a leper on ojar? Justgothen: Thanks for the advice. I did it anyway. I didn't beat anyone to a pulp, but I confronted them. It was ugly. I called her a floozy. I don't know that I regret it though. He just keeps lying through his teeth. I walk in and he's sitting there laughing with his arm around her...yet he tells me she's just a friend. Does he think I am stupid? I'm not signing the settlement agreement. I am going for blood. If only he was honest...
