Almost done. brokenman: Well, it has been a long time since I have visited here. At some point I just stopped needing to be here. Ojar really helped and for weeks I absolutely NEEDED to be here reading, writing, and dwelling on my divorce. Now, it is almost a thing of the past. I appreciate all of you being here discussing all of the various topics that come up and the help you provide. But I consider it a great thing that I no longer visit Ojar daily or even weekly. I have a new focus on life and have things placed back in perspective. Sure, there are moments of being down and looking back at a marriage and thinking, "what if", but those are tolerable now and less frequent.
I am here today because this week the rough draft for the divorce agreement was delivered to my s2bx and I. I have a few typos to get corrected and some minor details to fix, but other than that I am happy with it. Most shocking, my s2bx didn't find any problems with it. She understood why I was asking for some of the things that are in the agreement (things I expected her to fight endlessly over). So, we can get this thing signed and in front of a judge in short order.
It is a rather weird feeling. A little part of me wants her to fight. It seems that she is surrendering the marriage to quickly. But don't let that fool you. Our marriage is really irreconcilable. I can't imagine letting her move back in and living that life again. I would have to be insane to let that happen.
Again, thank you all. I may be back now and then to read and help out, but for the most part I need a break from divorce. No doubt I'll let everyone know when the decree is finalized.
Re:Almost done. PiscesGoddess: wow broken man..you sound just like I have sounded.. :-\
Needed a break from all the divorce "tragedy"..felt like I was walking around with a neon sign above my head..saying.."Hi, my name is R..and Im a divorced person"...sigh..
Good luck on your journey.. sounds like your divorce is going very fast..Im not sure whats harder, the ones that go so quick you're not sure what hit you..or the ones that drag on FOREVER...
As another Ojarian now drinking Ojarlite...I wish you the best of luck...and the only thing that truly helps I think is time..My life has moved in warp speed since I served my ex almost one year ago..and he still gives me problems..but I could not imagine in anyway shape or form still being married to him... ::)
Anyway..Good luck and God bless...
Pisces
Re:Almost done. barelybreathing: Brokenman-
I am pleased to read you are on a steady course!
We are all really good people here who have found ourselves in a sad experience. That sadness has bound us together with a common thread.
Although the faces are unknown and the names are anonymous, we have in some way connected on a deep level. Kindred spirits of sorts.
I cry for you all and for myself. I cheer for you all and for myself. I get mad for you all and for myself. I am happy for each milestone we conquer.
I have been on this board a long time and have considered many times not posting anymore. I often feel redundent in my rhetoric. But I know that on some level, I have been helped and others have been helped by my being here.
I hope that you keep in touch and share your milestones with us. It is always inspiritational reading for the newcomers who are in so much pain.
Best of you luck to you in all your endeavors.
BB
