Faking it ... jadedangel: [color=navy"> A post recently about being a liar got me thinking ….. that is truly all I am as well.
I fake it – so much of everything around me. So few people know what is going on with me and so few people really realize where I am mentally. It’s easier – to just pretend like life is fine … but, it makes me wonder – will I have to fake the rest of my life in so many aspects. It is a sad thought … isn’t it easier when you aren’t pretending?
I lost faith in so much – so many things …. Lost faith in love … lost faith in friends who really don’t want to hear about how bad things are …. Lost faith in people who are supposed to support you --- coz truly all they want to hear is that your fine … so I continue to fake it—I just wish … there was somewhere I didn’t have to pretend anymore ya know ….somewhere that really wanted to deal with it … And somewhere that I could find hope again.
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Re: Faking it ... Erin: I'm with you Jaded.
I can't put the truth out there about this yet. I am afraid that people will treat me differently and I can't handle that.
Unfortunately this situation has taught me to put up really big and strong walls. It's still early for me, but at the same time, the walls/small lies are easier to deal with than the brutal honesty and raw hurt that I still feel.
I hope the others are right and that it will get easier and it will make me feel better, but for right now I'm going with what works for me.
Re: Faking it ... Samarra: Can I ever understand this!
People throw the word liar around too harshly....as you say....which one of us is not a liar to some degree?
Oh...lying is only really bad if if's done in context of a moral issue....cheating....stealing etc.
But who among us doesn't tell those little "white lies" on an everyday basis?
I used to.....but no longer. I tell people upfront who I am....believe me...it's a good way of weeding out your "friends"
I really think this comes with age.....you'll find you are so tired of pretending.....if only because you never know who loves you for you.
Of course......there's also a tact and respect issue that comes with this......it's not an "in your face" kind of thing....which unfortunately we see all too often.
Since I've been honest and stopped pretending with people my life has gotten so much better....those who care stay.....those who don't...Oh well...you were never worth my time.
Re: Faking it ... hardened_heart1970: hi jade, hi sam.
i too have highly lost faith in love. it truely scares the shoot out of me now...
but also, dont be too hard on your friends, and family that dont want to hear about anything bad, as they are your friends, and when you hurt, they hurt. most of the time, positive breeds positive........
and the friends who love you for you, will listen 24/7 were all here, keep our heads high.........
Re: Faking it ... getreal: [quote author=jadedangel link=topic=20055.msg185583#msg185583 date=1128828566">
[color=navy"> A post recently about being a liar got me thinking ….. that is truly all I am as well.
I fake it – so much of everything around me. So few people know what is going on with me and so few people really realize where I am mentally. It’s easier – to just pretend like life is fine … but, it makes me wonder – will I have to fake the rest of my life in so many aspects. It is a sad thought … isn’t it easier when you aren’t pretending?
I lost faith in so much – so many things …. Lost faith in love … lost faith in friends who really don’t want to hear about how bad things are …. Lost faith in people who are supposed to support you --- coz truly all they want to hear is that your fine … so I continue to fake it—I just wish … there was somewhere I didn’t have to pretend anymore ya know ….somewhere that really wanted to deal with it … And somewhere that I could find hope again.
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You need to let it ALL out, and let the chips fall where they may. You will be surprised how many REAL friends you have when you do.....and you will feel a lot lighter when its all out. Practice right here if you want. The people here are fantastic and the wealth of relationship experience on Ojar is for lack of a better word GREAT :-*
