Re: Barring order. alonewith2: Is there any way to move the date up? I would go absolutely nuts if I couldn't see my kids!!
Hopefully they will be home for Christmas! Keep us posted! *HUGS*
Re: Barring order. WhiskeyGirl: Cowboy, thats terrible...I'm so sorry.
There should be able to get "temporary" access to your kids...especially since she has no grounds for the order.
Don't let her win by flying off the handle...no matter how hard it is, keep a level head, play by the stupid rules until you can prove she's a liar in court and make her look like the selfish fool she is.
I'm really sorry, that has to be so hard :'(
Whiskey
Re: Barring order. BigRunner493: i got knots in my stomach just reading that. can't believe she would try and block your access to your kids just because of her plan with OM.
i hope your ex falls flat on her face in court; she deserves a reality wake-up call!!!
good luck and keep us updated.
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Barring order. Cowboy12: I stood by my Alcoholic wife for 8 years... all for nothing. After I left bc she asked for space, and I found out about her affair with her AA buddy.. I learned to accept it... move on with my life and enjoy my kids on the weekends ...my time with them, a couple of weeks ago, she told me not to come over that weekend as she was going to her moms with them for the weekend, anyway the kids called me saturday morning and I decided to pop over to see them before they went. They weren't there, she had her suitcase packed and was al dressed up, she was going off to a hotel for the weekend with the OM, she went off the head at me, as I had interupted her plans, she left the kids with strangers all weekend. I had made alternative plans to see my sick sister at the other side oof the country, so I left
Now She has just summonsed me with a protection/safety/order ...because she doesn't want me coming around when her OM is there...
What hurts the most is my access to my children.
She HAS NO GROUNDS for this order, but the mere fact she has done this confirms me how twisted she is.
I have never hit anyone in my life, I have never wanted to hit anyone in my life, and it hurts me more, as when i go to Al-Anon meetings and meet women who are abused by their husbands and need these kind of protection orders, that my stbx can lie to the courts to try an obtain one.
I am the one who was attacked throughout our marriage, I have the police reports to prove it, but have to go to court to prove this now. the court date is set for the 22nd of december, 3 days before christmas.
Cowboy.
Re: Barring order. SunnyFlower: Ugh!
This makes me SICK to hear!
My Ex did the same to me...before we seperated "officially" by residing in different homes, we had a fight...he stole my purse trying to get my check book...I grabbed his arm trying to get it back which left a red mark...he called the cops and got a restraining order against me.
THEN he kidnapped my son and because there was no previous custody agreement on record, I couldn't see my own son! Possession is 9/10th's of the law or some crap like that! >:(
We had a hearing for the restraining order a few days after he slapped it against me, and the judge was nice enough to dismiss the restraining order almost immediately and turn the restraining order hearing into an emergency (temporary) custody hearing so I could see my boy. The original date was set for approximately 3 months from then, too, and I thought waiting that long would KILL me...
There's GOT to be a way to see them earlier! She's not only hurting YOU, but THEM ALSO!! >:(
My Mom used to always tell me to "keep fighting the good fight", that as long as you remain true to yourself, the truth will set you free.
I was a victim of an alcoholic father my entire childhood...he physically/mentally abused me...then I went right into a controlling relationship with my Ex for 10 years. I have a pretty good idea about how these control freaks work...how they USE you and manipulate you without giving a God d@mn about you or other people they might be hurting!
>:(
It makes me so mad! And sad :'( ...for you and your children. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
Sorry I hijacked your thread a little, too. I just wanted you to know where I'm coming from and that I understand the disease and the need to control as well. I'm here if you ever need to talk.
~Sunny
