Re: All his money WhiskeyGirl: I understand how hard it is to make ends meet, trust me....but the fact is your ex has to able to make ends meet as well. Thats just the way it is....when we have kids with someone we cant just break up and say oh well, I need what I need and to hell with you.
It sounds like you may have to take a not so great job in the meantime, until you find something else. Mabey you could mave out of the city a bit.
Paying lawyers on both sides can't be helping matters...its a complete waste especially when you are trying to get blood from a stone. My guess is at the end of the day..you could have payed for those braces three times over with what you spend on lawyers bills.
I truely am sorry, we all know how tough it is trying to make it alone...but you have to be realistic and figure something out that works for both of you....like it or not you will be co-parents to these kids for a long while yet.
Re: All his money in_search_of: sounds like both lawyers are posturing up and that in the end what you will have is something in the middle of what his lawyer is telling him and what your lawyer is telling you.
All his money BONILLAK: Can the courts take every penny someone makes? My dh is saying they can't. I'm saying if child support, alimony and 50% of daycare is his whole check then yes the courts can take it.
Also if I can find out through an investigator that he is in fact living with a female and she in fact helped ruin the marriage can people still sue the other party involved? I ask this because he is aggravating me to no end with his complete lies to his lawyer and if I can do this I will just to prove me right/him wrong and make this divorce stretch out longer because I need to keep health insurance until I can find decent employment and there is no way the courts will make him pay Cobra on top of already needing his whole check for just the basics...plus I found out today that my 8yr old needs orthodontic work which he said will be too bad because he won't be able to afford it so no judge is going to order him to pay that too or even a percentage of that.
Re: All his money charmed: [quote"> Also if I can find out through an investigator that he is in fact living with a female and she in fact helped ruin the marriage can people still sue the other party involved?[/quote">
In some states, yes - for "alienation of affection", but this law has been discarded in many states. This can become time-consuming and costly. Most courts like to deal with the property settlement, custody issues and most lawyers will suggest steering clear of anything outside of this (at least in my area).
[quote"> Can the courts take every penny someone makes? [/quote">
I've never known a court to do that. It's only reasonable that both parties need money to live on.
Both parties are supposed to give full disclosure on income, assets, etc. If anything is hidden they can be held in contempt of court. Your husband will have to disclose everything to the courts, as well as you.
I'll admit that my eyes bugged out at what you may be getting LOL
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Re: All his money ChiefWiggum: [quote author=BONILLAK link=topic=20532.msg190146#msg190146 date=1129679210">
It has nothing to do with taking every penny, it has to do with being able to survive. [/quote">
What if he earns $1000/month and you calculate that he owes you $2000/month? Do you expect that somehow you are going to get $2000/mo because that's what you need to survive?
If my exwife got ALL of my money, I would stop working.
CW
