Re: Ltr to h/that dumped me and his ex-wife who he left me for Bree: No, I didn't. I did, however, speak to her and it feels better.
Ltr to h/that dumped me and his ex-wife who he left me for Bree: This is my letter to the lovely husband who left me for his ex-wife. I'm almost 8 months pregnant and this comes out of nowhere. Comments welcome. I plan on sending both letters out Saturday. Here goes...
My Dearest J,
I have so much to say, but you've heard it all before. You are happy with your decision to walk out on me and your unborn son and cause so much stress and devistation to my life right now (endangering this pregnancy), that is obvious. Maybe you've got your fingers crossed that something will go wrong and you will never have to deal with me again. You certainly wouldn't cry any tears over it. You aren't crying now. You are Happy! according to your own words. I'm glad you are happy. I want you to be so happy you can't hardly stand it. I want you to be so high in the clouds you think you are flying, because I don't think it will last. What goes up must come down. Boy I learned that the hard way when you cut the strings to my parachute. Yes I'm being sarcastic -this is my anger talking. Please try to understand that.
You are selfish to disregard me like you've done. I think you are ashamed, because you weren't ready to tell everybody the glorious news that you dumped me! For a family out of your past. One that was ripped from you like you ripped this one from me. But, you have no trouble walking away from your unborn son and you are too d**mn happy right now, so maybe you have no shame. Who knows?! I have nothing against your kids. It's definitely not their fault. They are just the "excuse" that has made this hell a reality for me. You can refer to my letter to C****** if you need further details on what I think her motivation was. It matters not, though, because it's over and you are happy to tell me you love her and are happy there. As bad as the pain is, it is necessary to get over you. For I loved you so deeply, it takes hearing it to even begin to think about healing. I will cry and bleed for a long time. I will hope that it all comes back on you both for what you have done to me. She had no committment or obligation to me, so I have to blame you totally for your choice to make this happen. I blame her for starting it and for having no morals, thus accepting you and taking away from your family here who loves you. She is wrong, but you are the one who betrayed me. You are the one I loved and gave my heart to and trusted. You have something lacking inside you is all I can figure. No human being with a heart could do what you've done to me right now.
It's sad, really. It's sad because I tried to give you the love you lacked. That wounded little boy whose mother left him, whose father was rough on him and made him feel worthless at times, that wounded man who's son and unborn daughter were snatched from him by his wife, that rejected young man who was dumped by this and that girlfriend, who felt unloved and unworthy, that boy who was picked on a called ugly. I took that heart and gave all my love to it. I tried to put bandaids on and doctored it with my love. I thought when I learned I was pregnant that I was giving you the best gift you could ever want - a Family! A son! I thought you loved me. I can't tell you how hard it is to find out that it was all a lie. You know, when I got pregnant and the day we found out it was a boy how happy you were! Your face lit up and I know you were proud. And then one time I'll never forget you telling me .......this pregnancy was not planned, but IT WAS NOT A MISTAKE. I LOVE YOU AND I LOVE THAT BABY AND I'M HAPPY! Do you remember saying that? I guess not. It doesn't fit in with your whole "denial" coping technique. What about those times when we were about to make love that you'd say something to the effect of ....we're about to make a baby. I'm going to get you pregnant tonight! There was no love there? No committment, no bond??? When you looked into my eyes and I felt it!
I love you and like I have said a million times, I always will not matter what. For me that really sucks! Because I don't have the capacity to turn it off like you did. But I have to say Goodbye! I will never be with you again. Ever.
Goodbye my love, my J Pooh, my sweetheart who quit loving me. Goodbye forever.
Re: Ltr to h/that dumped me and his ex-wife who he left me for Bree: This is the letter to the ex-wife:
Dear C*********,
What can I say? I know you'd prefer me not to say anything, but I am much too hurt for that! I want you to know exactly what you have helped facilitate here against me and my son. I do not blame you for wanting J. in C******'s life. I do not hold anything against your kids -both of them. It's NOT their fault in any way. It is just the "excuse" that has led to MY HUSBAND and FATHER OF MY CHILD leaving me. Throwing us away like a piece of trash.
J. is someone I loved with all my heart. Unfortunately, I still love him, but I am working on that -as he is not worthy of love from anyone. I cannot blame you for him leaving me. However, I blame you for participating. I blame you for what you have chosen to do with him. I blame you for having the nerve to step into MY LIFE with MY HUSBAND and MY CHILD'S Father and taking him away. I blame you for choosing to be with him night and day. Granted he CHOSE to go. But if you had any morals whatsoever you would have not taken him and accepted him back into your life to be Daddy and supporter when he already had a wife and child to take care of. I am in no way opposed to him paying his child suppport. But, guess what, he said "I DO" ....forever! then he just walks out. What kind of person can do that? He's a true low-life. He's not a man -a real man would have stepped back, even if he instantly "had feelings" for you again. He would have not tossed his wife aside at the most vulnerable time of her life while she has his son growing in her belly. I am still shocked and floored that he had the capacity to even do such. The bottom line is that YOU started it. YOU made the choice to be with him inappropriately and take him into your life knowing he is married!
I know he loves those kids. If he was a man he would have taken steps to integrate them into our home, our family. The way "normal" families do it. But, no ...he heard your sob story (...yea, i worry about getting up in the morning and what if my car doesn't crank? I have nobody..... blahblahblah). With your puppy dog eyes, I'm sure. You are a smart woman, I'll give you that. You knew exactly what you wanted. There are several scenerios I can come up with. #1) you simply needed someone to take J****'s role -daddy, financial, sitter, gopher, d**k, whatever else, or ....#2.) you heard J. was married (maybe knew he was expecting, I don't know) and decided hmm.... let me see if I have the power to take him back. He may be happy w/this girl. So it's an ego thing w/you, .....or #3.) when you saw him and was going to just use him you saw what a sucker he was and decided to take him for all he's worth. Anyway, you know what you are getting. I'm sure you've forgotten what a total a**hole he can be. I'm sure you've forgotten how violent he can be. I'm sure you've forgotten how selfish he can be. And how immature and manipulative he is. Well, honey, he hasn't changed. Temporarily he's on a total high. This is all new. Love, romance, daddy .....he couldn't be happier. He'll come down, because as you know he has a jekyl/hyde personality. Up and down. I hope you are happy with him.
...continued in next post.
Re: Ltr to h/that dumped me and his ex-wife who he left me for Bree: continued ltr to his ex-wife /girlfriend:
(Note: the J is my husband, the other J***, J referred to is the man she left my husband for and who has raised the kids the past 2/5 yrs), the other C*** is the daughter and H*** is the son.
I don't want him back. Since I still love him so much it is hard. It's hard to lose someone, especially when I've done nothing wrong, nothing to cause this tragedy. But I guess I'll go ahead and thank you. Thank you for setting me free from this low life with no morals. I don't deserve someone who could do this to me. I'm better than that. I guess that maybe you believe that you are not. But I don't think you are a fool. You're just selfish like him -you are getting whatever it is that you want out of him. Sitter, dad, gopher, sex (although most people want more than a minute man!) You guys are a real piece of work. I hope you enjoy it. I hope you enjoy knowing you took someone's husband away. I hope it's a big power trip for you. Do you really think highly of yourself for having no morals or heart? Don't you think someone will do you this way one day?
I'm sorry I ever met him. I'm sorry I ever fell for his lies and deception. He can bad mouth me all he wants and say he wasn't really happy with me for a long time. That's what he's saying -it's called denial. Denial of the heartless way he has thrown away this family, including his son!!!! But that's okay, I've heard everything he's said about you. I won't lower myself to repeating it. I know how he is. He was a victim in your relationship, too, according to him. Bet you didn't know that, did ya? hahahaha ...it's almost funny. Boy, reflecting over everything makes me realize that i am so much better off without him. My son will suffer and for that I will suffer, but life goes on whether daddy's around or not. He chose for it to be "not".
So, much luck to your new little, happy family. May you all be happy. How could you do this to me, C********? I've never done anything to you. I tried to get J. to call you and he just said a million times he wanted to sign his rights away, because he knew J**** was her daddy in her eyes. Is J****** now crying for her like J. cried for H****? That's a real b**ch to think about, isn't it? Will J***** be back someday? Whatever happens, you both chose your paths. Being a daddy to those kids has nothing to do with robbing an innocent mother/wife of her life! Just remember that. Well, that's all I wanted to get off my chest. I will let him go to be with you and your family. I meant nothing in this letter but to express to you how hurt I am and how I feel about your role in all of this. J. was the one committed to me, and he's the one betraying me, but as a human being it's still wrong of you to take him from me like this. I hope you are happy with your decisions. Goodbye.
10/16/05 (<--look J., it would have been one whole month today. hahaha, what a joke!)
Re: Ltr to h/that dumped me and his ex-wife who he left me for BabygirlM: sweetie, i wish you much happiness and good luck.
just think, you will have a beautiful, wonderful, baby boy soon and all the love in the world will be given from that little wonder.
you dont need a jerk like your husband, he sounds like my ex....we deserve better!
take care hun.
