odd appearances allovertheplace: so i had a mardi gras ball this weekend. my whole family belongs to a krewe, so we all go and party together. this includes aunts, uncles, cousins, parents, sisters, etc. anyway, i went to the ball and had a great time. the next day my mom calls me and says that she has to tell me about something that went on at the ball. evidently my stbx showed up and had found a way inside and was standing by our table. my sister saw him and went and asked him what he was doing there. he must have really scared her or something. she somehow got him to go outside. my uncle went and got the police and they escorted him to his car and made him leave. no one told me about it until the next day because they didn't want to ruin my night.
anyway, so now i am kind of nervous because he obviously made my sister very uncomfortable. she has always had the opinion that he was harmless, but she seems to be scared now. i am really nervous, i mean, what would he have accomplished by showing up there. he would have had to go through my whole family to get to me. and he obviously wasn't even afraid of them (who all hate him and would hurt him if he came near me while they were around). i don't know if he was drunk. my sister seemed to think that he wasn't. she said he didn't seem angry, just really sinister and creepy. she said he was concerned about whether or not i had a date and who it was.
anyway, now i feel like i have to be really cautious around him. he called a bunch of times last night, but i didn't answer the phone. he left all kinds of messages apologizing for showing up, saying that he made a mistake, saying that he loved me and he just wanted to see me. he apologized about a million times and asked me to call him back so he could explain.
the other weird thing is that i am pretty sure that he is seeing someone already. so i am not sure why he is still chasing after me. why doesn't he just go out with this new girl?
also, i wonder how often he finds out where i am and goes there? is he following me? even if he is not following me all the time, what about when he does get angry and sees me somewhere or finds out where i am? i want to know what the point of him going there was. i mean, what would he have accomplished with me in that scene with my whole family around and a band and hundreds of other people? was he just coming to spy on me? but i really don't want to talk to him. i am not sure that i can trust what he says anyway.
it is just weird and i did not sleep well last night at all. and my whole family is really concerned and nervous, which makes me think that there may be things that they aren't telling me. my sister is really upset. i had horrible dreams last night too. really i am not afraid for me, because i don't think that he would hurt me. i am nervous about my friends or people that he might get angry with, i.e. my sister, my friends that i hang out with, etc.
anyway, just had to vent about it.
Re:odd appearances Safetykc: Restraining order.
This is a really tough situation though.
I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.
But I know people that are seeing someone new and are still pretty hung up on their X so that doesn't mean anything.
Sigh...
I know you were just venting, but be careful and protect you and your family. Maybe telling him that what he did wasn't acceptable, since he called and apologized and seems to know what he did was wrong.
Tell him it upset your family and you and if needed to talk to you he should have just called and if it happens again you will take steps.
Hard to advise here since I don't know where this guy's head is at, and it sounds like neither do you.
Take care and be safe.
