be afraid- be very afraid dave13: Well boys and girls, and old friends,
As embarassing as this is for me, let me be one to remind everybody here why they need to be careful when they decide to get back out on the market. In this case it is called Chlamydia.
First of all, especially for those who have had to question their ex's faithfullness you should get tested. You may not even be aware you are carrying anything.
I am ready to give up. I have been in this relationship for about seven months now and
we had both voiced that we wanted it to be a commited one. Neither of us gave over to the other easily. So go five or six months down the road and then I get some symptoms. I get tested and suprise suprise. I am left with only one explination as to why I have this now, regardless or her statements to the opposite.
I have no clue as to how I even feel at this point. Just so very tired.
Re:be afraid- be very afraid ChrisJane: You are so right. I received an infection due to my ex's unfaithfullness while we were married. I was 37, married and had to rely on condom's. Never before in my life had I went through this and at my age it seemed so embarassing. As soon as he was out of the house I went back again to make sure I was okay and still have regular check ups.
There are STD's out there with no symptoms, protect yourself no matter how real the emotions may be. If the person turns out to be THE ONE, they will be tested for everything before making that final commitment!
Believe me your not alone in this, just one of the few that spoke up. You can have fun and be careful!
Re:be afraid- be very afraid Brian75034: I feel for both of you. My ex cheated and I got tested after we divorced. I feel VERY lucky it all came clean.
One note though- Herpes is a hard one to "test" for though. BECAUSE if you have had chicken pox or you have cold sores, those are all the herpes virus. Its just not genital. So therefore, there is no "test" for those because you essentially already "have" it. You just have to watch yourself for symptoms. And if you have a cold sore outbreak, refrain from oral sex.
ugh...what a topic!!
Re:be afraid- be very afraid ostia: Dave13,
Your points are very taken, but I wanted to mention one other issue: I'm not certain about this, but I believe that you cannot necessarily assume that your partner became infected during the time that you were with her.
Chlamydia infections are often asymtomatic for long periods of time, so she may have been infected since well before she met you and simply not been aware of it. As for passing the infection on to you, I don't know whether the fact that that didn't happen until 6 months into the relationship necessarily means that she became infected recently, either. Various factors influence whether or not sexually transmitted diseases are actually passed from one sexual partners to another--it's is not the case that unprotected sex with an infected person will always lead to transmission of the disease. For example, with HIV infection, the chance of becoming HIV positive from any single episode of unprotected sex with an infected partner is less than 1%.
I am by no means saying that safe sex is not extremely important, or that your partner didn't cheat on you. She might have...but she didn't necessarily.
Before you jump to conclusions, you might consider talking to a doctor or calling a hotline to find out more about the transmission of chlamydia. It would just be a shame to ruin the relationship unnecessarily if she didn't actually cheat on you.
Just my $.02...good luck.
Re:be afraid- be very afraid brynne: Excellent Point !
My X cheated the last 6 mo's we were married so I do need to get tested. It is on my to-do list, I waited until after the divorce b/c I felt like if I did find out bad news I wouldn't be able to handle it. It would have just been too much to deal w/ within such a short time frame.
But thanks for bringing it up & sharing your story. I will move it to the top of my "to do" list.
Thanks,
Hope
