Recently Seperated dolphin08: I have just recently seperated from my husband about 3 months ago. It has been a tough road but things are looking up now. He met someone who he says he was just talking with who is also married. He did not want to work things out or go to counseling but was not sure if he wanted a divorce either. It was very painful to me but I am getting through it. It makes you look back and realize what you were going through that at the time you did not see. Everything happens for a reason. I truly believe that. I never thought I would be divorced. It is the last thing I wanted to happen. But I have learned to accept it. Some days are harder than others. But for the most part things are okay. As painful and hurtful as divorce is. It can also make you a stronger person if you let it. Its helped me to focus more on myself and what I am looking for in life.
Re: Recently Seperated justmenow: I know exactly what you mean. We were in counseling for a year and I never saw what was truly wrong with the relationship until we split up. Being by yourself really gives you a crash course in introspection and helps to show you what you need to survive. I am a much happier person overall after the divorce. I wish I could have been this happy while married, because I would have probably been married still. Sad, but true.
I'm glad you can look back on your life with such thoughtfulness and I wish you every happiness.
Re: Recently Seperated csunday: I think it is so hard to imagine being divorced - I felt the same way, almost like it happened to people who weren't fully invested in their relationships. Then it happened to me 2 years after my marriage (still in the proceedings now). I am shocked, but I take great comfort in the fact that I know I am not alone. And I am inspired that just three months in, you have such a positive attitude!
Re: Recently Seperated heartbroken: Hi,
I really appreciate this post. It's only been three weeks since my husband left and I feel like I am falling apart.
How did you get through the tough moments?
Re: Recently Seperated imdone: Hi its been almost a month since my husband left me , its been really difficult . I have 2 small children that i have to take care of so most of the time i just have to forget the fact that im hurting. Yesterday my husband fianlly moved to his own apartment , i came to see and its starting to sinks in that its time to move on. I guess Im still in denial about all this. Financially its going ot be hard since i don't work. I only go to school right now and he expect me to help out which i totally disagree and also that he want my daughters to go to his apt and sleep over once a week. I don't really like that idea. He already left me and he cant just take my kids away even from 1 night . So anyways being in this site kind of help figure things out for myself. Please help me get through this.
