It's been 2 years, 3 months, 12 days Jerseycat452: 2 years, 3 months, 12 days... since I last held my daughter in my arms. That was the day that my ex husband got temporary custody of her. The day my world fell apart. I've been making it through, with the help of my fiance, going through the motions and even finding pieces of happiness- but I still miss her. At the end of every day, I miss her.
My ex husband was cheating on me, on top of the fact that our marriage was just not working. I had expected him to change, he'd expected me to be okay with it. I started talking online to what began as a friend, and is now my fiance. In November, I moved out across the country with my daughter (with my ex husband's permission) to live with him.
Then, in June, I got the papers.
In July, I lost her.
Since then, he's married the 16 year-old he was having 'conversations' with at the end of our marriage, and my daughter calls her Mom.
I have been allowed very little contact, and the fact of the matter is that my daughter doesn't even know who I am anymore. To her, his new wife IS her mom, she doesn't remember any differently.
My job is decent paying, but very localized, and not quite decent paying enough for me to move back out to the west coast to be with my daughter, or even to hire a lawyer to try to get visitation. I pay my child support. I wake up, sleep, eat, and work. I'm tired of holding all this inside and I just wanted to vent it. I know it's an older divorce, but the part that gets me is my daughter. She's a beautiful little girl. Absolutely beautiful- smart, funny, everything the perfect person would have as an adult. She'll be four in early December, and as usual I'll send her a gift, but all I really want- for my birthday, Christmas, any holiday- is a hug from her.
Thank you, everyone who read this long-winded, mostly sad post. I feel a bit better having typed it all out, regardless of posting yet.
Re: It's been 2 years, 3 months, 12 days jadedangel: [color=navy"> I am so sorry Jerseycat -- it sounds like you got the lower hand of the deal. I wish I could say more or do more than would help but I know ... I can't. Maybe now that things are a little different for you --- you can go back and ammend the visitation -- or whatever it is. I don't know anything about it -- but it seems like you should be able to do something. Good luck ... and old or new ... I don't think anyone really cares --- there are quite a few people on here with issues concerning kids -- I think it's fine, your welcome to vent your story. ;)[/color">
Re: It's been 2 years, 3 months, 12 days Jerseycat452: Thank you very much for your reply. I was beginning to think this little interweb device had broken down on me :)
Re: It's been 2 years, 3 months, 12 days lilly10: Jerseycat,
This made me feel so sad reading your post. I cant imagine how you must feel. I myself don't have children but I do feel your pain and can see how much you love your daughter and would do anything to just give her a hug. Is there any way you can make a trip out west to visit her or make arrangments for her to spend a month or so out of the summer with you?
(((HUGS)))) Hang in there where there is a will there is a way!
Re: It's been 2 years, 3 months, 12 days hardened_heart1970: HI JERSEY. i will tell you this one thing, and one thing only....
no matter what financial position your in, no matter what you and your fiance' are doing, as far as being in love, and no matter how you have to go about doing it, get visitation of your daughter.
love(S) of your life, jobs, and other stuff may come and go, but YOUR KIDS are forever...
do whatever it takes, to get the care of your daughter, and put everything else on the back burner...
is there alot of surcumstances, that led to your ex getting custody? expecially since he is breaking the law, with a minor?
id like to know the whole thing.... thanks
