comments welcomed! caligirl: Hey all:
It has been awhile since I've posted--and pretty much have been super busy with my life--all has been going pretty well.
I know I have changed through my divorce process, and feel I have gotten alot stronger.
What I have noticed is that when I am out in social situations, with some women aquaintances, I feel like they are always in competition with me.
Alot of the gal friends that i hang out with are totally not like that(the ones that I've known for 8+years that really know me), however, the new women aquaintances, the ones I've met in the last 6-9months have been.
I get that vibe through what they ask me, seeking approval for there shortcomings and insecurities, and so transparently manipalative--its really pathetic.
I could care less, just because I know who I am, and am pretty confident, and not afraid to be myself.
i just wanted to post this to see if anyone else have felt this way, and if so, do you just brush it off? or what?
Just curious on how you handle something like this?
Re: comments welcomed! picadilly: Are the new ones single too? Maybe they feel they need to compete with you for available men? Or maybe you're just more aware of it now then you were before when you were married? This is going to be a shitty analogy but after I bought my first car, I started seeing it all over the place & it even came into my head that as soon as I bought the car, everyone else in the city must have been copying me... the biotches. lol. Yes, I was young & the car was a '92 Civic Hatch back, bought brand new. Obviously it wasn't the case, it's always been there, I just never noticed it as much.
Re: comments welcomed! caligirl: Hey P,
i hear what you are saying, and have played that senario through as well, but honestly, if it was something that happened, oh, about 12 months ago, than yes, i would think that. But not now.
Like I said, the gals that I've known awhile, are not like that whatso ever, if anything, they are completely supportive and complimentary to the positive things they've noticed about me.
I do think you're right about the competitiveness, and no they are not all single.
Anyway, its not like I'm losing sleep over it, but it is a caddy thing that I've noticed about them, and I just smile, and go on with my happy secure self :)
Thanks for your input.
-Cali
Re: comments welcomed! jen: Cali~
Hey girl! So glad to hear you are doing well!!!
Here's my take: you exude a new confidence and strength in yourself...people notice that. You feel free to be yourself. You've had the experience of going through something heartwrenching and come out on the other side with new wisdom and insight into your life, about what you want, what you'll accept and what you won't. I remember back when and I know that how true this is! and I'm sure you're feeling even stronger than the last time we talked!!!
I'm not even sure it's competitiveness...I think it has more to do with envy of your security in who you are :D
Truly, I am so glad to hear that you are well!!! ;D
mtmo
p.s. I would love an update about what you've been up to :)
