Recently Left Broken: Hello Everyone.
I am using this site as a last resort of who to talk to. My parents are getting fed up with me constantly talking about the situation and my friends all think that he is a jerk. Let me explain my situation.
I am 19 years old and had been dating my ex for eight months. Now I know that that doesn't compare to divorce or being together for a very long time. BUT, we really rushed into things and had a houseful of furniture at my parents place ready to move out and he had bought me two rings already. Anyways, I moved out of my parents place to go to school this fall and he came down for six days. Tuesday night we went to bed and he was wondering if i wanted him to come to class with me or not, and we started to fight a little bit and he ended things. When I came home later, he was gone and had left a short note.
He did this once before and called within less than a day to get back together, so when I didn't hear from him for 6 days, I didn't know what to think. Today was the first day that we spoke and I went to his place to return his cellphone and suit. It was hard, we both just cried and held each other and he kissed me too. We both love each other very much but we fight a lot. I feel out of sorts because this whole thing is basically in his hands. I don't know why I want to be with him when he hurt me like that. We want to stay friends and he told me that I could never be replaced, but no matter what I just keep thinking that he could be with another girl right now and it kills me. I love him so much and don't want to completely lose him.
I've never been through something this rough, and I need help getting through this. I'm not sure how to handle the situation, and thought that maybe coming on here might help. I really want to know how to move on, how to feel better, to trust again. I read an interesting quote from Sex and the City that said 'it takes you half the time you were with someone to get over them' I want to know if this is true. I want to be happy again...
I hope to get some help from whoever is out there. Thank you.
Re: Recently Left lonelywithouthim: Broken,
I'm sorry that you're going through this right now, but know that it does get better. I wish I could tell you when, but it takes a different amount of time for different people. I was with my husband for 3 years, and its been 3 1/2 months since he left me. I'm over him, but i'm not over the pain that he put me through.. but I know that time will take care of that.
Did your relationship end solely because you fought a lot or was there something else too? For now I would just give him time, he may change his mind..he may not. The biggest mistake I made when my husband left was pushing him for answers, all it seemed to do was push him away and make him mad.
Good luck.
LWH
