How do you know?
Is it always this way. I can't help it- I have to hope that she will come back. I miss the hell out of her.
Re: How do you know? PnR: It has happened to me that someone has broken up with me and months later wanted me back. By then I don't want them back. So it can happen.
I wish I could believe it is the case with my current but since I don't think it is. Yet I have a hint of hope in my heart.
Re: How do you know? ya_crow: Hi Crushedman,
From the start of the breakup I tried to ignore the "hope" as I have been through the "hope" stage before and I wasted years of my life hoping.
Hoping is the comfortable option (well less uncomfortable) BUT it drags the pain and misery out for so much longer in my experience. SO this time I took a scalpel to the ties, the hope, my heart. I guess time will tell if it has worked and it's the quicker recovery method. It still sucks, but I don't want to waste any more months / years on someone who was able to walk away from me and move on without showing any regrets. I would love to have hope but there is none. She has definately moved on and unfortunately left me far behind. :(
Everyone's situation is different, if there is real hope then maybe you should hold on to it, but if you are hoping against all the odds - then for your own sake and sanity DON'T.
Re: How do you know? husky: i guess 90% of the times, people feel this way. they want their ex back.
likewise for me, i wanted him back when i miss him, when i thought of how we should have worked things out instead of just giving up.
But then i'll think about how fast he has moved on, how unhappy i was when i was with him, and how he wouldn't or couldn't change his ways and not do the things that make me feel so insecure and unhappy. And i knew i made the right decision in leaving him, no matter how much it hurts. it's better in the long run.
Re: How do you know? Targ: My wife was the one to leave, saying she hoped that in 4-5 months she'll realize what a horrible choice she'd made and we'd get back together. As much as it hurts, I've decided to move forward as if there is no chance of reparation, I really don't want to spend the next 6 months in desparation. As well as I know my wife from all of our years together, I know she's comitted to her decision; our marraige is a sinking ship, and I've decided I'd rather dive off and risk drowning than spend the next couple of years bailing. It's agonizing to do, but from what we've recently went though, so much trust has been lost...any attempt to rebuild in the future would be nearly like starting over anyway.
