the real story of the blame game crushedman: This is what most of us do: we see things as we want to see them. The people that left and the people that were left.
I can't speak for everyone, I can only speak for myself-
To say that it was her fault for leaving is totally wrong. Does she share in the blame- absolutely. But if I had acted a different way, done things differently, she would still be here. That's the truth.
So I am to blame 100%.
Re: the real story of the blame game Falcon554: Dont take 100% of the blame, you cant it takes 2 people to screw things up trust me I know. I tool 100% to at the start, well now I see no matter how I was im sure what has happend would of happend someday anyway.
We are all human and make mistakes, its up to us to fix us. My wife had made more mistakes then anyone I have ever known. She even admitts now that I did not deserve what has been done in the last 5 months.
So dont beat yourself up (funny I say it to you but I beat myself up alot)
Good luck
Re: the real story of the blame game husky: most people will reflect on what went wrong with the relationship after it ended. it's like 'why didn't i do this, why couldn't he have done that, why did i behave that way, if i hadn't done this, things wouldn't have ended up so wrong, etc'.
all sorts of regrets creep up. but if you think again, do you really think things would have worked out if 'you have done that, you did not do that, etc'? what about the other party? he or she has a part to play in making the relationship work too. it is never one person's fault.
Re: the real story of the blame game BONILLAK: I know I made mistakes during our 17yrs but by golly, I stayed and stuck it out through thick and thin. He chose to walk out with another woman who caught his eye. I could have done that years back too but valued my marriage, my children and myself more than that. I believe if 2 people want something bad enough(like their marriage) they would stick it out, seek therapy, church, etc to make it happen. Marriage, spouses and most of all children should not be disposable but in this society it is. I think all couples should be made to seek counseling prior to divorce. It takes 2 together to make a marriage but yes it can take just 1 to break it. I sure wasn't perfect but I was far from bad and nope I will take no blame here.
