They have to realize they blew it up. Gabo: In my short experiences with break ups and returns I figured out this and I want to share it with you because I may be totally wrong.
If the one who left is going to get back someday (even though if you want him back or not) is only when he realizes he blew it up.
When by his actions he crashes into a brick wall and says to himself: “Man I was so stupid”. It may be Karma. It may happen at the age of 80 but someday will happen (I hope).
How will then the one who left realize he screw it up? When they’ll see the leavee stronger and happier than ever without him, maybe even dating another person. And of course when their wrong actions blew on their faces.
Well that’s just a thought. What do you think?
Re: They have to realize they blew it up. LifeisBetter: Well, my ex cheated on me and once I found out I starting the divorce process.
His "wakeup call" came when the realized the grass wasn't greener on the other side - his new gf had no job, they had no money, they dealt with the same relationship problems that every couple deals with. For some reason he thought she was going to fulfill his every need and the excitement of "someone" new would last forever. Then it really hit home when he saw me for the first time in months - I looked better, bought a new sports car, got a raise, etc. He begged to come back, but the damage was done. I wanted no parts of him. I haven't seen him in over a year but last I heard he had no job, he was still with the skank, and they were living in a roach motel.
Re: They have to realize they blew it up. Lumpy: It seems to be the general rule that they only see it after it's too late. In my case I can honestly say we're both better off. Once I got some distance from her I could see just how dysfunctional our relationship was. After being apart for about a year and a half I think that both of us are happier.
Re: They have to realize they blew it up. zippy: I have a friend who got to see this in action twice. One guy who left her, and then got married 2 weeks later (secret affair she didn't know about and vice versa). She finally contacted him 3 years later and they've become friends. Basically she found out his life crashed and burned - he had admitted to her he made a mistake. Basically he got dumped, lost his entertainment job, got blacklisted, got sued, filed bankruptcy, is flat broke. She made something of herself, makes six figures (in her 20s!) bought a 6 figure house has a wonderful bf - her life is great.
While at her new job, ex bf #2 was there looking for work and she happened to walk pass him. his mouth dropped. he never did say anything but he had just up and walked out on her one day. no word. she she was devastated. and now, there he was begging for work and she was all ready in.
She told me to give it time, it usually comes back to them - dependeing on how horrible they treated you? in 2-3 years time. Ofcourse if it was just a breakup not involving others, you know what I mean - then who knows? But she's very strong feelings on it will come back to them, just give it time and that's why it's important not to do anything to get back at them b/c in the end - it'll come back to them anywyas.
Re: They have to realize they blew it up. manda: [quote author=Watergod link=topic=21509.msg201107#msg201107 date=1131734461">
My goal is to be able to post my dating ad on gaymillionare.com. How cool would that be? ::)
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Is that a real site? ; ::) :D
