Why me??? Why today??? ga_sunshyne: My XH calls me up today to find out exactly what things I had left at "our home" that I still wanted. That he was selling the house and needed to do something with it. Well, even though I gave him my equity in the home to do with as he pleases, he could have had a bit more couth (sp.??) in the way he presented it. Sure it's yours to sell....but it was "our home" for almost 19 years!!!! We designed it...we built it...we conceived our son there....raised our son there for 11 years....why does that bother me so much he asks!!!!!!!!! ::) ??? DUHHHHH!!!!!!!!!
I thought I was getting better, now this.....my whole Friday afternoon and probably the entire week-end is shot to hell now!!!! Not to mention that he makes it a point to tell me that he also sold all of the furniture (except for our bedroom suite) because it would not match the decor of the new home that he and the OW were about to begin building! That was our dream to find land in the country and build a bigger home so that we could have lots of animals and trails and ponds and now he's sharing our dream with her :'(
he's such an insensitive bastard! I hate my life....
sunshyne
Re: Why me??? Why today??? Suddenly Single: I can totally see how you feel so angry and frustrated and hurt.
I know what you mean about the house...I still mourn mine. I also understand because my boyfriend has the house that he designed and built with his ex and I live a few blocks away where they concieved their children. I live in shadows constantly. So I know that saying the house is just an object would be hypocritical of me.
However, you still have your memories and you have your son. Having a big house and having those things are not what is going to fulfill you. It is the relationships in life that you have that will fill you. I know many people that have their dreamhouse but their lives are otherwise empty. He's sharing a "dream" with her yes.. a dream of a house.....but you will share you dream with someone in time also. It may not be a house - it may be the dream of happily ever after...it may be the dream just knowing you love each other and trust each other. I don't know...I'm just babbling....
I know what you are saying...but I'm trying to potray that having that dream house might not be what makes you happy.
HUGS to you. Sucks feeling crappy. :'(
Re: Why me??? Why today??? Suddenly Single: I know what I wrote make sense BUT knowing and feeling are two different things and we just can't always rationalize emotions.
Wow - that is a long time to know someone. Yeah .. wow.. that sucks. Especially knowing he is doing all this and not being happy. Wow. Don't worry about dating...it'll happen when it happens - right now you have to take care of things. The other thing I didn't mention is that the selling of the house is probably the final step in finalizing everything with you both. So even though the divorce was final.....there was still the house...you both had that together...you both had that connection together....almost like a little bit of your old life was still there and with that leaving.....it is another loss. You never know - once it is gone and everything is settled and over with - you may feel VERY differently.....maybe a little liberated.
HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!!!! :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
SS
If you are indeed having a drink tonight - please have one for me.
Re: Why me??? Why today??? manda: Well, we're having a blender party down in the ANYTHING GOES board later tonight. Maybe you both should come.
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