Re: an email from my stbx techick: [quote author=goose tape man link=topic=21532.msg201758#msg201758 date=1131895085">
thats cool. im glad it works for you...
just a tip from a guy. be very careful. as long as your talking, he probably thinks he can come back in, and have you back. this, is how most guys think. i think, they think.
dont want to rain on your parade. please be cautious. thanks
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Listen to the Goose! LOL
No seriously, my XH did that and he still tries to work a "friend" thing so he can try and excaltae it into an "us" thing. My XBF does the same thing (BTW, left XH 2 yrs ago, so the XBF was this yr, not overlappping!!! eek!) but yeah the XBF does it too, starts a convo with something inane and then tries to get it escalated, BUT he's so screwed up and it never works on his side and at this point I am not willing to just "go back" to him so I don't let it just fall back into the same thing.......ok to make a short story long, just be careful, your STBX may be just missing the things you all shared and being fooled by this into thinking that he made a mistake (not to say that you aren't a great person!:) ) but he may just be lonely and missing the relationship, it sounds that way in that he didn't contact you for a while and then it was to just chat and see what was going on in life in general, but, well, I don't know what you really want, so just play it safe and don't assume anything or let your heart get hurt:)
We are here for you though, in any case <hugs>
Re: an email from my stbx Bea: Good luck, Tweety.
My EX expressed a desire to start communicating again a few weeks ago and we've been in contact, if you can call "contact" to a couple e-mails and a short phone call. I sent him a long message telling him how I felt about talking to him again and he said he was going to reply... nothing so far! I still don't know if he really meant it or he was just being nice and right now I'm not expecting anything anymore. I just hate it that he kinda sorta opened the door and then left the room, if you know what I mean.
I don't know why I wish to speak to someone who was horrible to me and who has shown no desire to talk to me in about a year, though... I probably am stupid.
an email from my stbx twetifb: Well, it's been seven week with no contact from the stbx (well except for some drunk vociemails he's left) and then tonight I receive an email from him...
"I was thinking...that it would be nice if we could start communicating/talking and be friends again...
What do you think?"
My response: "that's what i always wanted...
however, it was you who chose to stop talking to me when i decided not to come down to florida to visit you...i don't know if i can handle you choosing when we're talking and when we're not "
Re: an email from my stbx alonewith2: That's strange, isn't it?
I like your response! Did he respond back?
Re: an email from my stbx twetifb: Thanks alone! We actually talked for about two hours last night. Most of it was basic how's this person and that but then we talked about some concerts he went to (first ones without me). I asked if the band played my favorite song, he said yeah and he sat down and cried for the whole song. There were a few times in the conversation when I cried but it was good...we needed to talk and I know that I feel better this morning. Anyways...we decided that maybe we'll catch up one in a while but it won't be a daily thing. We'll see how it goes.
