Today is different..... brandyrobin710: Okay, I have to keep posting because it helps so just hang with me. Last night, I had someone ask me out. It felt soooo weird. I haven't been in the dating scene for 2 years and it feels strange to be doing something with someone other than Derek. Derek has been my whole world for 2 years and I don't know if I'm going to be able to go out with someone new yet and not compare it to the fun Derek and I used to have together. Should I still go out with this new guy or should I give myself a little more time? I'm still pretty hung up on Derek. He is always on my mind. It's only been a month since he moved out and I haven't talked to him in over 3 weeks. I'm still holding onto the chance that Derek and I will work things out. We shared too much and loved each other too much to give up that hope yet. I know I should face reality that he isn't coming back but it's the only thing that keeps me going now (the hope that we'll be together again). I don't want to be unfair to anyone I'm going out with if I'm still holding a torch for Derek. I would appreciate anything anyone wants to share about this dilemma.......
Re: Today is different..... sheydp: Counting how many Dereks you typed in your post, I think it is obvious you really aren't over him! lol! Really, sweetie, only you can know if you should go out with someone else - and how you will be when you do. I DON'T think you should go out with someone and give the impression that you are open to a relationship. However, if you just want to go have a good time, have someone to talk with and do things with - and are HONEST about that, I don't see anything wrong with that myself. If you know you aren't looking for a relationship, no comparisons should be there. Did you compare going out with girlfriends to going out with Derek? New friends are a good thing. Just make it clear it will only be friends, at least for now. If you feel like you would feel obligated to give a goodnight kiss or something - don't go. That will set you both up for heartache. Does that help at all?
Shey
