Re: Starting NO CONTACT today...again hardened_heart1970: random.
do you have anyone you could use as a go between, so they can monitor the calls? that way he would only contact you for kid stuff....
that would make it easier........
Starting NO CONTACT today...again manda: Okay, I am really going to try to do this, people. You've talked about it enough.
Today (finally after three weeks with him out of house, three months of separation but in the same house), I told HIM that no, he couldn't be single and married at the same time from a different location than his family and everything just be exactly the way he wants. (He wants to date and then go to his new home! Geez, we've been married too long and I'm too old for that crap.)
New rules (made by me, the recent doormat/ now all-powerful stand-up woman /later possible break-down and cry girl)
1. No more just walking in my house.
2. Don't call unless it is about son or financial/house related
3. SET visitation with son: Wednesdays for dinner, Saturday 2p-Sunday 2pm (for now) but any other time he calls first, he is welcome to him--son is 15 and probably won't want more than this and may come home earlier or not go at all for the overnights...we'll see.
4. If he wants to move back home, he needs to ask me--up until now I said the door was open--now it isn't.
That about covers it. It was hard and I was sad after talking with him. He was still all calm and collective about it all. He hasn't lost his cool once through all this. He says he cares and this is hard on him too, but I don't see it. I really don't.
I want to go somewhere or do something but I know I'll just sit here. When is Monday? I'm ready for a long work week!
Re: Starting NO CONTACT today...again Falcon554: good luck im giving my what ever she is anymore the same thing tonight. Im just done. I cant be freinds with her as much as I want to, not yet anyway.
Re: Starting NO CONTACT today...again hardened_heart1970: im rooting for you... you can do it, and i know you can. i will give you my number, and you can call me if you get the urge to call him.
dont open your arms, and heart for him. make him feel like the azz he is...
good luck..........
we need any goosetape yet?
Re: Starting NO CONTACT today...again Irony: good luck with your plan!
I'm attempting to go totally no contact as long as I can (maybe another five minutes, who knows?)
rooting for you all the way.
Good groundrules by the way.
Will make up some of my own tonight.
you are Uber Woman!
