Where do I begin?! 1hrtbroken+2: I'm a 33 fixing to be 34 mother of two. I was awakend at 10:30 at night by my husband to find that he was drunk and had something on his mind. Unaware what was in store, I get up and am comforting him, then he lays it on me that he's not happy anymore and he doesn't love me anymore. We will have been married 10 years in February. He tells me this out of the blue! We had not been arguing or fighting about anything in a really long, long time. Most of our fights where from his drinking or cursing the children or the bad choices he made while trying to "help" some other women. My husband is a cop and a former Marine. I am a former Army dog (no, we did not meet in the service - we were both out when we met). I feel so lost, alone, a fool, I could go on! Have you ever met someone and just knew that they were the ONE. We still have so much in common, we didn't grow apart, we still have the same interests, enjoy the same things, sex life was great, so I don't know what happened. I've been told by the other wives (cops wives), that his entire shift was of the same assumption that he and a female on his shift were having a thing; so I called and confronted him; he denies it; but now there is an Internal Investigation and he has been relieved as shift sergeant. The children and I have moved out of the house and State and now live in FL with my parents. We've been here about a month and things are going okay. It gets really hard on me when he doesn't call, which I shouldn't expect him to call me, only the children. He told me all this August 27, 2005, the children and I moved on October 16th. I tried really hard to do everything he asked and to show more of an effort, he didn't do anything. When we talked, he acknowledged that he saw the efforts that I was showing, and asked him why he wasn't showing me, he said he wouldn't, he didn't want to and that he didn't want to try. Even after he told me he wanted to try and work things out, I even set up an appointment with a marriage counselor. He wouldn't go, said what can they tell him/us that will make him change his mind. He still says that he had never cheated on me, I don't believe him anymore, but he still maintains is statement.
Re: Where do I begin?! lookin4alite: Hi,
I am sorry you are in this situation. Welcome to OJAR, this is a great site for help. You may find that this site gets you through the very tough road ahead. It has done us all wonders and you will find that everyone here has been through much of your same pain. The patterns are so close that it is frightening.
Thank you for coming and post often and check out our many other sections as you wish.
Take Care,
Lite
Re: Where do I begin?! Raul: hrtbroken,
Welcome to Ojar, the best place to talk about your feelings and be treated with respect and love by all its members. I have been a member since my wife left- two months ago. And I keep coming back to listen to others and to be listen to by others.
I am sorry about what you are going through. I know it doesn't feel good or fair, but we care about you.
Please post whenever you feel like expressing yourself.
God bless,
Raul
