She's acting flirty and nice! WTF harmonix321: It's gone from 4 weeks ago when she said "I want to live my own life. I don't want you to contact me anymore," to now, if she sees me, she puts on a big smile and playfully flirts with me. This morning she dropped off a tupperware full of cupcakes on my apartment porch. We've been separated for 3 months now.
I've been nothing but nice the past 4 weeks, occasionally dropping off a Skittles at her apartment but other than that absolutely no initiated contact.
I'd like to have a chance at getting her back. The divorce is final in December. I don't have much time... though I know that the marriage is just a piece of paper at this point, and reflects little about the relationship. I'm planning on returning the tupperware with one of her favorite homemade treats inside. Her niceness is making me so excited at times that it's getting harder to sleep. But I know that no matter what happens from here on, I cannot and WILL NOT show her any weakness. I don't want her to be able to hurt me again.
I think I'm just fooling myself. :-\ Can this ONLY lead to heartache and more pain? She has stated specifically in the past that she does not want to be married to me, that she wants to live her own life, and has told me nothing that could be construed as wanting to get back together. But if she has really moved on why the hell would she make me cupcakes? The way I see it, I have a small thread of hope here I can work with, that probably won't work, but has a chance.
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF Falcon554: dont get your hopes up to high, my nutty wife flirts with me still. After affairs, sex with 6 other guys. She still wants that control and I have no idea why. Hell not more then a month and 1/2 ago she left the house and gave me a kiss and that was 4 months after we seperated.
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF ajw: Dont get your hopes up,she's feel guilty for whats happening and leaving you a little present helps her feel less so
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF Raul: harmonix,
I called my STBXW for lunch- out not seeing her for a while- and she said okay in a nice, sweet voice- and when I got there she told me that I ruin her appetite by just looking at me. And she started putting me down- even told mt to get the **ck out of her face- after 10 minutes talking to her. And this is not the first. A friend told me that she gets empowered by making you feel like you're worthless- making her feel like she is better than you. She has called me to see what I was doing- if I was okay (I honestly thought she missed me). Then when I call her that same day- later, she'll say- that I am harrassing her. I don't understand her. But I realize that I should just leave her alone. And I have. Even, when I miss the old her- not the new one. She changed. She has me hanging on a thread and she knows it. So becareful. I was so happy when she said yes to meeting me for lunch- and I felt so hurt when she got in her car and left me standing there with my mouth open.
Raul
Re: She's acting flirty and nice! WTF Trying2Hope: Same kinda thing happened to me. My ex got weird and extra nice right after she stabbed me in the spine by cheating and leaving.
It's like she was saying ... "Oh my! I'm sorry I hurt you so badly! I'm really not a bad person. Here ... here are some cupcakes. Toodles!"
