alcohol only thing to take away my pain nalfein1: I can't stop thinking about her. we've been together for 13 years, and married 8. I use to be an abusive husband and have since got help with it. and have learned some of it has to do wit my depression and have gotten on medication for it and counseiling. She can't forgive me for what I have done to her and wants a divorce. She says she isn't in love with me anymore, and she might be falling in love with someone else.
I feel so lost without her and don't know what to do. We have 3 beautiful girls together ages 12, 8, and 5.
The only thing that lets me get any sleep and not think about her is alcohol. I have sleeping medication, talking to freinds and my counselor but nothing helps but that. It makes me feel numb.
what else can I do??
Re: alcohol only thing to take away my pain Falcon554: nothing really does, I to was to some extent abusive, not as bad as I think she thinks it was I was more ingnoring her then anything. But after 5 months nothing takes away the pain.
My wife is seeing someone but its not love, but it still hurts like hell.
Re: alcohol only thing to take away my pain jadedangel: [quote author=nalfein1 link=topic=21583.msg201827#msg201827 date=1131903938">
The only thing that lets me get any sleep and not think about her is alcohol. I have sleeping medication, talking to freinds and my counselor but nothing helps but that. It makes me feel numb.
what else can I do??
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Re: alcohol only thing to take away my pain WhiskeyGirl: I'm sorry your hurting :( Welcome to ojar.....
Honestly, I don't know what else you can do, besides keep yourself busy and focused on other things, your kids for one.
I do know this though, alcohol wont help, in fact it just makes it worse. Yeah, its a temporary fix but then you sober up and you are usually more stressed, anxious, and miserable than you were before.....so what do you do? Have another drink of course! And on goes the cycle......
The sad fact is you are going to have to live with the pain for a while, it hurts, I know, but day by day it does get better.
Eventually you are going to have to deal with the pain, and the cause of it......putting it off by numbing yourself with alcohol only postpones it, it doesn't take it away, trust me.
Take care of yourself and keep posting, we are all here to listen :)
Whiskey
Re: alcohol only thing to take away my pain hudson: Hey nalfein. I am sorry to hear you're dealing with this incredibly painful experience. Most of us here know just what you're going through and understand quite well the pain you're dealing with.
I think it's important to face the pain, accept it. We learn from our pain, become stronger people, better people by dealing with our pain head on and not trying to suppress it or run from it.
I know that's not what you want to hear but I gotta tell you, there is no way to remove the pain you're dealing with. I know that it seems unbearable, to the point that you feel you can't go on. But the fact of the matter is...you're stronger than you think. That's something that I tell people when they're going through a divorce because it's true. I found that out myself when I thought it was impossible for me to get through my divorce.
Let your feelings run their course. Eventually the pain will work itself out and you won't feel so trapped by it. I've been where you are, it get's better. Keep posting and expressing what's going on inside of you.
Take care.
