Re: Who would like to see divorce reform
Getting married is a choice between TWO people. That's it. If those two people shouldn't be getting married for one reason or another then the responsiblity lies upon them. They are adults and therefore accountable for their own choices and will therefore be allowed to learn from the bad ones.
If someone wants a divorce I don't want some government official or shrink holding the marriage together. I want the person to be free to choose. If they want out, that's their choice and I don't want anyone's right to choose to be f#cked with.
I didn't like the fact that my exwife chose to divorce me, in fact it damn near killed me. But it was her choice and I respect that and would've been totally opposed to some bureauocracy or counselor or shrink stepping in to keep us together. If she wants to leave that's her choice as an adult to make.
That's it.
Re: Who would like to see divorce reform mountainmandew: Ok big guy, I am not saying let the shrinks loose, I am saying leave the other persons life intact! If your spouse plain and simple gets bored, so be it.. let them walk away! But leave my life intact! The courts are all too ready to award funds to low lifes that don't want to work, or support themselves or take responsability for their own actions. My spouse decided to start hanging around bars, DUI and OVI became part of our normal vocabulary. I had a great job for years before we were married, and the courts want me to support her now that she was fired, and they also want me to pay for her retirement with mine! She has a boyfriend, why don't the courts make him take responsability? Some reform to the system is needed!
Re: Who would like to see divorce reform mountainmandew: To reply to Amy , I just recently spoke to a friend that works as a Secretary in a church, she received a call asking for a date the minister could perform a marriage. as in most churches the minister requires a period of counseling before the marriage, this couple insisted counseling was not needed, whereas both of them had already been married twice before!
Like I said there are cases when the couple should be allowed to terminate a marriage without hesitation, and drinking name calling refusing to spend time with you, are forms of abuse, but so is working for 40 years to provide a future for yourself, and the courts give a major portion of your retirement to someone that is doing those things and not taking respposability for their own actions!
Re: Who would like to see divorce reform hudson: [quote author=mountainmandew link=topic=22031.msg205789#msg205789 date=1133068603">
Ok big guy, I am not saying let the shrinks loose, I am saying leave the other persons life intact! If your spouse plain and simple gets bored, so be it.. let them walk away! But leave my life intact! The courts are all too ready to award funds to low lifes that don't want to work, or support themselves or take responsability for their own actions. My spouse decided to start hanging around bars, DUI and OVI became part of our normal vocabulary. I had a great job for years before we were married, and the courts want me to support her now that she was fired, and they also want me to pay for her retirement with mine! She has a boyfriend, why don't the courts make him take responsability? Some reform to the system is needed!
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You live and learn. I know I'll think a little harder before I get married again, bet you will too. Divorce is nasty business. Marriage is a legally binding contract, if you don't want the law, the courts involved in your life...don't get married. Otherwise, you gotta take your licks, just like the rest of us. Accept responsiblity for a choice you made, a legally binding choice.
peace
Who would like to see divorce reform mountainmandew: [color=red"> Dicorce in this country is way too easy. Not only is it hard on the couple, but it has far reaching inpacts in the moral fiber of the children involved with or around the couple. There are some instances when abuse is the cause, by all means make it easy, but for God sake, to quit because you are bored with it? Too easy! Lets hear it!
