Re: For all u people who says the dumpee hurts more....load of cr*&p Gabo: if you want her out of your life I agree with fre.
if you want to move on with your life I also agree with fre.
But if you want her back at some point (since there was no cheating there is a slightest larger chance) then still be friends with her but move on. Keep dating, have another GF but donīt lose your friend. That's my advice. Of course not everybody will agree with me in this one.
Just one more thing. If you keep moving and find another GF, and your ex wants you back... please don't cheat or leave your current GF for your ex, that's horrible and is a formula for disaster at some point later. (been there done that)
For all u people who says the dumpee hurts more....load of cr*&p daemon: Short run down on my situation.
I am 26
Was with a girl for 18 months (21 yo) i broke it off with her in early august.
She had a one night stand with a guy 3 weeks later which turned into more than a one night stand. She is now seeing him. So i feel hurt that she was able to move on in three weeks.
In those 3 weeks before she met him she kept inviting me around (no sex just as friends). I was weak and went there even though everyone told me not to. I even drove her to pick up her daughter from her ex ex's house a few times.
Anyway how come i am hurting after 4 months and she is perfectly fine. I am torn between feelings of regretting my decision and jealous that she is with someone else. I am a nice guy so i handled my side of the breakup well but she has sent me txt messages telling me about how great this ew guy is plus we have a mutual friend so i hear about them quite a lot.
She has also contacted me twice in the last few weeks wanting to meet up. She said she wouldnt tell her boyfriend.
Why am i still feeling like this and what can i do to get over her?
Re: For all u people who says the dumpee hurts more....load of cr*&p freovir: the why is irrelevant as far as i am concerned. The only thing you can work on is the "is." Two words; NO CONTACT. it does wonders . do not answer her calls. . if a mutual friend starts to tell you something as k them to stop or just walk away.
--fre
Re: For all u people who says the dumpee hurts more....load of cr*&p ajw: she sais she wont tell her boyfriend if you meet up.....thats a little odd!...why would she say something like that
Re: For all u people who says the dumpee hurts more....load of cr*&p dgiirl: Why did you break up with her? From the things you've said, I dont think you truely regret leaving her, or you even care about her. It sounds like you are more jealous that she's with someone else already, having a better time without you and not still pining for you. It's the typical "I dont want you, but I dont want anyone else to have you either". Making a decision to leave someone isnt something you should take lightly. You should have thought about it seriously before you broke up with her. It's good that you are still hurting. Hopefully you will learn something from the experience.
As for getting over her, well fre summed it up nicely.
