Does time heal???? 4sarah: I know this is stupid but I've been single a little over a year and my x still gives me the I love you and I'm coming back speech. Keep in mind he's married to the woman that he left me for. In some way's I want him to stay right where he is because I think still after 1 year I would have a hard time telling him NO. Then sometimes I think it would be great if he came back. Which is horrible theres more to my story I have two kids with him so no contact is out. Also about two weeks after he left I was diagnosed with cancer and am still working on recovering from that. SO I'm stuck in limbo and don't know what to do I feel like an idiot because I can rationalize in my head that I don't want him back but then my heart won't let me. Does anyone else have this problem with their x.
Sarah
Re: Does time heal???? Gabo: Sarah:
Yes, definately is tough. I can not even relate because my situation is easier. (fiance cheated and left)
The thing that may make you life a littlebit easier is to move with your life. Really leting go and keep moving by yourself. Drop hope to get back completely.
Well it helped me but as I said I am in a different situation.
Hope this helped.
Re: Does time heal???? Findingmyself: Yes, I agree with Jabe.
All you do is destroy any chance of your heart and life to recover from that relationship by allowing him to say those things to you. It's like he's just stringing you along for a backup plan in case the other woman doesn't work out. A very cowardly, disgusting, and insensitive thing for him to do.
Yes you have to two children together, so no contact is next to impossible if he is to have any relations with them. But you don't have to allow him to talk to you that way. It's all up to you. It is your choice. Do you want to keep feeling miserable because you still are left with this small thread of hope that he may come back because he tells you? Or do you want to move on with your life and heal in all manner of speaking? Give it some thought.
Re: Does time heal???? Findingmyself: Oh... and yes, time heals.
But you also have to be willing to put the work in to heal yourself emotionally. For example, for me, one of the things I am doing is going to a psychologist to work out some of my issues. As I know that some of the things I am feeling after this relationship of mine falling to pieces have to do with some of my issues I need to deal with in my life.
