Excessive crying in men a problem?
It's happening like on a weekly basis. The first meeting with my phycologist was last week, I started talking like a normal human being, then out of the blue I don't even remember why I started crying. Then, when I left, while driving, I was so happy I finally had the courage to come forward and speak with a phycologist, boom cry again. Something that I've noticed is that I do have two emotions at the same time, while I cry, I make pauses to laught about the fact I'm crying for a silly thing.
Sometimes, when I attend mass (I don't go that regularly) if Liturgy has some interesting content I cry. This is incredibly annoying.. I can't function properly. Specially if I cry during a speech... well, and to make matters worse, about a month ago, I had a discussion with one of my directs because she raised her voice way above normal levels when talking to me. I told her it was the last time she did something like that. At work, I show no emotion, I'm head of an entire department. She then came to my office to apologize and she started crying telling me she was sorry... OH BOY.. I had to lock my office and told her to wait. she evidently noticed I was crying too.. but I felt dumb dumb dumb... That is not professional and I feel like a freak.
Now, AFTER divorce it is getting way above normal levels... I ALWAYS have cried for silly things... but, CRYING IN FRONT OF YOUR OWN EMPLOYEES? that's way way way out of my own comprehension. By the way, we both started laughing like crazy after we both were ok.
Anyone know if this is some kind of illness? I found no information on google.
Re: Excessive crying in men a problem? jojo: its not an illness its a release and its far better than punching a wall eventually once all your pain has gone so will your tears. Dont worry about my dad crys like a baby at tv commercials. Perhaps men arnt supposed to cry but everyone I have ever met has (not because of me haha)and i respect them alot more for it. It shows your human..whether youre crying because something is good or bad dont hide it. That would be far worse...............
with love jojo
Re: Excessive crying in men a problem? jadedangel: [color=navy"> An illness -- I highly doubt it. Your an emotional person -- and that is how it is expressed, is my guess. Just because your a man, shouldn't mean that you can't cry. To me -- if a woman was writing the same post -- I don't think I would respond any differently. We live in a world of 'buck up buddy' and 'take it like a man' attitudes seem to prevail. But -- seems to me if women want equal rights ... men should take them too.
I have no doubt you find it annoying .. and disrupting to your life. After a divorce, your only going to find yourself more emotional. I don't know how to tell you to make it better -- I just think you should know it's not completely abnormal. I agree with jojo ... on the fact that I would rather hear about emotion than rage... human nature -- it sucks.
Hang in there...
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Re: Excessive crying in men a problem? Whirlpool: You big sissy!!!!!! ;D
Just playing!
Don't sweat it man. I tear up watching movies and reading sad things too. Or happy ones even depending on it. I am usually kinda embarassed though and will try to hide it:) I understand your concern though but I don't think there is anything wrong with you.
Re: Excessive crying in men a problem? RSGinATX: "Excessive crying" ? Well, by definition, 'excessive' is a problem, but the extra crying is a symptom, not the problem. You're being overwhelmed by an excess of emotion right now...you're out of balance and being pushed in all directions. So, you tip a little farther to one side or another than you're accustomed to...still completely normal! I'm betting that if you looked at all of your behavior you'd find that a lot of your emotions are hyper right now...more anger than you want, more sadness...even occasionally feeling bursts of joy from little things that you might have missed before.
Crying at movies and church and such? Nothing unmanly about that..my dad is a 2 tour Vietnam vet who's been a cop ever since he retired...he cries at kids movies and church too. I'd never call him a wuss :o
