I'm new here MJ28: Hi everybody, I'm new here and I'd like to add my story. I left my husband 7 mos. ago (3 days after my daughter was born) and i just sort of feel lost in space with no one to talk to. I'm hoping that by talking with others out there like myself I won't feel so alone. My husband is a twisted sociopath, always trying to blame his inadequacies on me, and just about everything else. Sad thing on my part... I still miss him. He won't pay child support without a court order and my baby has some minor health issues that prevent me from going back to work at this time. He insists that if I loved him I wouldn't take him to court for child support. He makes good money and thinks he's entitled to spend every cent on himself and says that I think I deserve a fee for taking care of the children. In reality, I want him to be a man and help me. He doesn't even visit the kids more than once a month. I really wish I could hate him, and truly I know what a despicable person he is- but I still love him. What is the matter with me?! Any advice or responses are greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Re: I'm new here ChiefWiggum: I know you still love him, so I'm not going to try to address that. However, I will say this:
Forcing him to pay child support does not mean you do not love him.
You may decide to not ask for child support... but do not let "I love him" be a factor in that decision.
CW
Re: I'm new here MJ28: Chief,
Thanks for your reply. I have filed for child support, however my court date isn't until Jan. I think he's saying all the BS he's saying in hopes that I will cancel the court date. He has generously (NOT!)offered me $30 per week and thinks that to be sufficient in supporting a child. All the while threatening me that if I take him to court they'll award him custody because he makes more $. He also has a drinking problem, 2 DUI's in 2 years and is diagnosed with a rage disorder. He is so selfish that he'll say anything to try and avoid actually having to part with his precious money to help with the support of his daughter.
Re: I'm new here ChiefWiggum: $30? hahahahah!
Okay, I think I know understand why he's playing "the love card" in regards to child support!
:D
CW
Re: I'm new here jojo: right here with you darling.....
big welcome...
with love jojo x
