Women's perspective Horseface: I'm hesitent to even post this in fear of sounding stupid but here goes.
I was married (ok still am but moved out 5 months ago) to a women who didn't like foreplay, she just wanted to get on with it. I know..supposed to be every guys dreams! ha. However, the way I am wired up, it is VERY hard for me to do that - almost impossible. My toys will not get involved unless there is some buildup. Complicating the matter is the fact that she was repulsed by the male anatomy so she never did anything to encourage me. Pretty frustrating for me. She had a good time but it was my problem to take care of myself. ...but I digress...
Most of the time I would try and rub some really nice scented lotion on her and I could get it on her back but then she would be done and want me to get after it. I would only be getting started and could have caressed her all night - but I always had to stop.
Since I have moved out, an old friend and I got together and while we didn't have sex, we had a good time. I wasn't comfortable having intercourse and she understood that but what shocked me, was that I ended up caressing her for 4 hours and she loved it. We kissed and talked and she would change positions and I would caress her some more. I was loving it and from her reactions she was having a nice time as well.
So my question for the women out there. Is that a normal response or is my stbx's response normal? (In my 48 years, I am a one women man so I am asking a serious question). Granted the overall desire during the process is to join together but would that much caressing turn you women off?
Sorry if this sounds stupid but there you go..
I'm ready to take the flaming from all the stud boys out there... Ha..
Re: Women's perspective hardened_heart1970: ok, i feel as i need to step up, since i have the ojar herim ::)
i think most women would like it. its not normal to always want to give and not recieve, although the thought is nice.
maybe you should become a maususe?
:-X
Re: Women's perspective manda: HF...not a nice name for yourself, by the way,
I think you had a bad experience and that you will find that every one from here on out will be much nicer.
I am concerned that you have turned it around to almost asking if how YOU are is normal--I know that is not what you asked, by the way... The answer to your question is that the woman who enjoyed the attention is more the norm and healthier.
Your stbx sounds as though she has some serious issues with intimacy and/or sex. Not your problem anymore. Now isn't that going to be nice??? Your future is going to be bright, in the dark (bedroom).
By the way, do not, I repeat, do not pay attention to that man in the goose tape costume.
A harem? I might have to kick his azz!
Re: Women's perspective jadedangel: [color=navy"> I cannot wait to see her kick his a$$! I get front row tickets!! I speak them!
And .... HF ---
What Random said is pretty much correct. Women on the whole enjoy the foreplay, cuddling and affection. It's good for you to be able to experience that with this friend and see how normal it really is. I really can't say more than what's been said.
And ... if any of the stud boys want to give you shit ---> send em to Random ... she is a damn good a$$ kicker... ;)[/color">
Re: Women's perspective Horseface: Thats what I figured in that it was her problem not mine but having nothing to use as a basis, it was difficult.
Random: I know the name isn't all that flattering but it was a nickname I was given in college and it just stuck. I also look at it as I really don't expect to meet anyone on here in person so its just a name. My personality and my character qualities are my main attraction points and I'm finding that those are difficult to display in via keyboard.
My future being bright in the dark.. thats good! I will remember that. Better days ahead as I am continually being told.
I love (watching) a good A$$ kicking so too bad that didn't work out!
