Just wondering if.... twetifb: anyone besides me sent Christmas gifts to their stbx?
I know it must sound weird that I sent my stbxh Christmas gifts but I couldn't resist. I mean I've been buying him gifts for eight years and every store I walked in I found something I knew he'd love. I always loved the fact that he was so easy to buy for but now I'm finding that annoying because that's why he keeps popping in my mind while I've been out Christmas shopping. I controlled myself and bought things that weren't overly personal. I mailed them to him without telling him because I wanted him to be surprised (he's in FL, I'm in IL). He called when he got them and opened them up while we talked. He loved the gifts and was almost in tears when he said "you know me better than I know myself."
I also sent gifts for our dog because I knew my stbx wasn't one for buying the dog gifts. One of the gifts I sent was a stuffed Tweetybird dog toy. My stbx left me a message last night saying he wished I wouldn't have bought that for Barney (our dog) because everytime he walks by with it he wants to cry. I feel bad because I didn't even think that would bother my stbx but it does. I guess he's more sentimental than I thought.
Anyways, sorry for rambling....I was just wondering...
Re: Just wondering if.... dumpling: i didn't buy him anything, but i was sad shopping because i found so many things that would be perfect for him. if we were on better terms, i would have bought the presents for him.
it sounds like the gifts were well received by your stbx, and show that there is no animosity.
Re: Just wondering if.... Horseface: I had bought something for my wife before we split 5 months ago. Last week I found it and really wanted to keep it because it was the complete run of a british TV show we have loved over the years. However, I realised that one of my sons didn't have anything for her for xmas, so I wrapped it up and told him that he could give it to her. Killed me to part with it but I didn't want my son to feel bad that he didn't have a present for her.
My other older child used his money to buy her something so the younger one would have felt bad. My pride or his feelings - he wins every time!
Re: Just wondering if.... twetifb: [quote author=stanker link=topic=23049.msg213840#msg213840 date=1135358493">
I'd rather have nothing than something that re-rips my heart apart.
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Good point...I should have thought about that when I bought the dog toy.
Damn...wait till he reads the book I bought him...I read it first and wrote my own commentary after paragraphs and chapters in which I felt like commenting. Hmmm...maybe I'll warn him.
Re: Just wondering if.... Dolphin Close: Did not buy him anything. Not even a Christmas card.
Past is past. Chapter of that book closed, shut, buried.
Or maybe I should have sent him the book: "Are men necessary?"
