Stuck [long rant] Sooty: We've been trying to move closer to her family ever since we got married. In fact the only reason we couldn't start closer, was because I found a good job and a cheap house right after we were married. It's been a good home for the past two years, with many projects to task and things to learn.
Last week we finally broke ground on our new home, right where she always dreamed. But last night, she said she was unhappy, and that she sees herself closer to home, without me. Her future is near her parents, and she doesn't see me in it, and that when we get home, she will pack her stuff up and move back. From there she will figure things out, with her friends and family. Whlie I live in "our" foundations. She moved down the hall last night to start it off, our first time apart. And now I'm stuck with her family and friends, big Xmas dinner with no car nearly 1500 miles away from home for 3 more days.
I guess I can't say I didn't see it coming, She's been distant for 3 months, and receiving strange late calls from an xBF, more local to her parents. I just don't understand it. I'm non-confrontational, I've never really asked her for anything, I cook for her, clean up after her, and participate in everything she asks me to. I've even given up my lifestyle to support her, in that she now goes to the salon once a week for nails/hair, and we've had her teeth, etc all done. But this isn't about her, I'm the one not in the picture.
I've scared myself into thinking that she is seeing this xBF again, the first time she ambushed me after work saying she found someone else. She eventually decided I was the one for her, but only after some theatrics, and a month of me being truly a mess. It was the hardest time of my life and I'm not sure I want to relive it again.
Re: Stuck [long rant] Whirlpool: All I can say is when you are bending over backwards to please them and they still come to this it is all about them, not you. And seeing as only they can change themselves my advice, though debateable, would be to cut your losses and let her go. Hope to hook up again down the road when she figures out what she wants. It just does not seem like these women come around and I would hate to see one more man waste any more of his time than he has to. It is hard enough already.
